About going to DH’s conference with a toddler?

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DH has a work conference coming up, 3 days in a pretty rural area in Europe. When this was first mooted he suggested that 21 month old DD and I come too (for a very low fee). I was ambivalent. It’s now two weeks away and I’m so, so not keen - if we drive it’s 7+ hours, with some constraints on timing because of two ferries. If it’s a flight and trains we will need to lug a lot of stuff. DD needs pitch black to sleep and doesn’t do brilliantly in travel cots. I don’t like the idea that I’m not sure what I’ll be doing with her all day (DH will be conferencing), and that a lot of the attractions are outdoors so if the weather turns we’re buggered. And then the journey back. I’ll also miss a day of childcare (I have one day of it a week).

Basically, I’d love to be the sort of person who chucks two nappies in a bag and just rolls with things, but I’m not. I’m now irritated with myself, and DH is making grumbling noises. AIBU? Would you go?

lannie I’ve no idea. Though I think in other circumstances it would be a cool location to spend a few days. (He goes on multiple trips a year, this is the first time we’ve had this discussion. And yes, I also think he’d enjoy a few days away alone.)

No way with kids! Without kids I’ve done it and was quite happy to entertain myself during the day and then meet up with DH in the evening. And then have an actual holiday over the weekend. Basically all we paid for was my flights and got various mini breaks

With little kids no. I’d rather stay at home with them and stick to our routine. Alone on holiday with toddlers does not sound like fun

I'd jump at the chance. Hotel, stay and play do obviously child friendly, is there a pool? On the coast so presumably a nearby beach? But despite what I'd like to do, you'd be mad to after if you are dreading it. The hassle of travel with a toddler on tow is only worth it if you are excited about the destination.

Bugger that. But if you do go, to black out the windows for Dad's sleep - roll if tinfoil, just dampen the window and it'll stick on.

I’m with you, OP. Too much faff. 3 days away and that length of journey simply isn’t worth it with a little one. Don’t feel bad.