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To not understand how underweight dog wasn’t noticed?

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3GreenFrogs · 23/06/2019 06:50

I see a woman on the dog walking route every day. She has a spaniel type dog that is well looked after, walked consistently throughout the day (it must get around 4 hours a day walking split across the day). It’s well behaved, well fed, well trained etc.

A few months ago she told me she’d just bought a Labrador puppy. It was too young to walk yet.

Then I didn’t see her for a while. The next time I saw her the puppy was about 5 months old and was out on the usual walk. I was shocked to see how thin it was. It was skin and bone. You could see all it’s rib cage, it’s hip bones and spine. It looked skeletal. I didn’t mention it as her other dog is the picture of health so I assumed she’s a good dog owner and the lab must have a health problem.
A week or so later I saw her again. The lab laid down and it looked awful. I bent down to stroke it and it made me cringe. It felt like stroking a skeleton with a bit of skin thrown on. She seemed oblivious! So I mentioned it. She looked embarrassed and said “oh yes, actually it turns out I’ve been under feeding her! I took her to vet for a check up and he said she was underweight! So I told him what I feed her and it turns out she’s only been getting a quarter of what she should have been getting!”

How the hell did she not realise?? I can’t get my head around it because her other dog is perfect health ... how did she not question that her dog seemed a bit thin?! It says on the packet how much to feed them. She seems like a lovely woman so I just don’t understand how this happened! AIBU to think you don’t accidentally starve a dog?

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WindsweptEgret · 23/06/2019 06:59

Was she just feeding it the same food as the adult dog calculated by weight, instead of what a growing puppy needs? It's her responsibility to find out how to care for a puppy before she gets one though!

Yayswimming · 23/06/2019 06:59

Could she have just been feeding it the same as the spaniel? You're right it's hard to understand how she didn't notice the dog being too thin.

tealandteal · 23/06/2019 08:08

My MIL did this, calculated how much to give based on weight, but got it wrong. She noticed after a week though as it was obvious the dog was hungry. Is she walking the puppy for 4 hours a day as well as that would be a lot for developing joints.

CleverQuacks · 23/06/2019 08:24

I did this! Calculated it wrong and was feeding far to little. Thankfully it was only for about a week cos my dog appeared hungry all the time and so I checked it with the vet. Luckily it hadn’t had an impact on her weight in that short time.

BeerandBiscuits · 23/06/2019 08:28

YABU.
It's not hard to understand how it might have happened.
Owner made a mistake with the amount of food.
When you see a dog every day you don't always notice if it's getting thinner, or fatter, especially if everything else seems OK.

MadSweeney · 23/06/2019 08:48

My mum did this and calculated her shih tzu should be having a whole cup instead of a quarter cup. He got huge and quite content
I noticed and questioned it then realised what she'd done. I think the dog hated me after that Grin

BeerandBiscuits · 23/06/2019 09:13

I was shocked when vet told me my lab was overweight, and tried to argue that his lack of a defined "waist" as because he was muscular, not fat Blush.
Really hated the thought of having an overweight dog, cut down on his food and he got slimmer. People remarked on how nice it was to see a lab that wasn't overweight.
Then someone pointed out that he was too thin as you shouldn't be able to see any of a lab's ribs, so I upped the food again.
I think we've got it about right now Smile.

VivienneHolt · 23/06/2019 09:16

Friends of mine did the opposite and accidentally fed their dog 3x as much as it should have had and the pup ended up hugely overweight before they realised, so I can see how it could happen.

It’s weird that she wasn’t alerted to it sooner by how the dog looked, but it sounds like she did realise and took action so hopefully it’s all fine now.

PuffsMummie · 23/06/2019 09:18

YANBU. This would anger me a lot too. Surprised no one said anything to her before the vet did. Our dog was skinny (not skeletal by any means) as a puppy despite getting plenty of food (and more than enough treats!), it was just due to his metabolism. Once he got to about 5 months he started filling out more.

Carouselfish · 23/06/2019 09:35

You're right to be angry. The dog will probably suffer the consequences of this for the rest of its life. Our collie has joint problems from his evil, stupid previous owners starving him as a pup and early teen (they kept him on puppy portions, he was so hungry he raided neighbours bins at night, they got him an electric collar to stop him. After we had bought him from them - long story - they saw him in town and said, 'oh, is he still greedy?' Wish I had knocked them out.). But anyway, there is no excuse for her being so unobservant.

Cherrysoup · 23/06/2019 09:41

I’m going to say that nobody is that blind. It’s far easier to over than under feed. My lot were skinny wretches as very young pups and weren’t bothered about food but filled out very quickly. I can understand her not wanting an overweight lab, god knows Crufts has a lot to answer for, but I think she’s been over zealous and it was deliberate.

AvocadosBeforeMortgages · 23/06/2019 09:54

YANBU

It sounds pretty obvious that the puppy was under weight. I can see how dogs being a bit overweight creeps up on you, but ribs sticking out are immediately obviously wrong Confused

crispysausagerolls · 23/06/2019 10:23

YANBU. But I am always of the opinion that’s it’s better to err on the side of overfeeding than underfeeding! Would rather a bit of extra chub that can be lost easily (puppies lose fat so quickly when exercised) than a hungry dog! How fucking stupid and cruel

Kaddm · 23/06/2019 10:31

Well I can see how she could have ended up underfeeding. My puppy food packets are ridiculously unclear and I had to go on the internet and check with the breeder to make sure I was feeding my dog the correct amount.

However she probably should have noticed that the poor dog was skin and bone. But the instructions on some of these packets are a total joke. Even now I don’t understand one of the packets! But dog is fine, good weight, and I checked with vet and breeder constantly.

lljkk · 23/06/2019 10:36

My neighbour did this, went on for months. Dog was getting investigated for all sorts by the vet for unexplained weight loss. They were on verge of putting dog down when all realised owner was massively underfeeding poor creature. 7 yrs later, dog is still around.
Neighbour had brain damage from severe illness as child. She can read & follow instructions, tries so hard to do right things but gets confused.

crispysausagerolls · 23/06/2019 10:38

kaddm

I’m sorry but puppy feeding instructions are NOT unclear! Unless you can’t do simple arithmetic or are illiterate. Silly excuse.

CSIblonde · 23/06/2019 14:44

People are dumb. I've seen on you tube quite a few people new to fostering, at the vet with kittens who look really ill & cheerfully informing the vet they're on 2meals a day 'like my (adult) cat' . I suppose the rescues assume Fosterers with adult cats will know their stuff & Google a kittens needs if they only had exp of adult cats. Instructions for kittens & puppies food needs aren't complicated: I was in charge of feeding, vaccinations & vets trips etc from age 16 pre Internet. I got a stack of books on kittens from the library.

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