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To never voluntarily buy Apple again

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SisyphusDad · 23/06/2019 00:02

Sorry, just need to vent (in the same way that an active volcano needs to vent).

I've just had to buy an iPad today for DS2 because his school requires it. They came up with some bollocks about why it had to be an iPad.

We are an Android household. I've spent well over two hours doing basic setup to fit in (roughly) with the way I do things (I'm quite tech savvy and have a particular way of doing things for very good reasons). And there are several things to do with parental controls and access to the Apps store that I simply cannot do without a second Apple device and there is no fucking way I am spending several hundred pounds simply to be able to approve things that need to be done (install the apps the school wants, for one thing).

I am usually quite calm and reserved but this evening I used a large number of words (in his presence) that I'm sure my son thought that I didn't know. And he described me as jumping up and down like a monkey as I repeatedly stabbed an innocent cardboard box with a screwdriver to release the tension.

I will not be going to the Parents' evening where they deliver a patronising lecture on the dangers of the Internet partly because I will find it very hard not to disgrace myself and partly because I've somehow managed to bring my kids up in an atmosphere of mutual trust and respect.

I used to think that both Apple and Google had their place, and it was mainly a matter of choice but after today's experience I am now firmly in the camp of Apple haters.

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mabelmylove · 23/06/2019 00:07

You sound slightly unhinged.

SisyphusDad · 23/06/2019 00:08

Why?

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GreenTulips · 23/06/2019 00:10

What are you trying to achieve?

mabelmylove · 23/06/2019 00:11

Spending ‘well over two hours,’ swearing and being physically aggressive, over setting up an iPad, a task which usually takes 10 minutes? Could you not have just downloaded the school’s apps and not let him have access at home?

Medievalist · 23/06/2019 00:12

I love Apple 🤷‍♀️.

But we're a split household - 3 Apple users and 3 android.

Streamside · 23/06/2019 00:12

It's like a foreign land when you're used to android.Awful that a school can dictate to how you spend your own money.

donquixotedelamancha · 23/06/2019 00:14

You sound slightly unhinged.

I have a very placid friend who sounded like this every time he phoned apple customer services. I bought a MacBook years ago and would never use apple again based on that. YANBU op.

I do however think iPhones are very good for my elderly Dad.

Perihelion · 23/06/2019 00:19

Apple are brilliant enslaving you to their products and once in the cult, it's rather hard to leave.......
Android household and I had an argument with a primary school as to why they wanted iPads rather than other, cheaper tablets

PickAChew · 23/06/2019 00:23

The apple send a code thing drives me nuts. Have ancient ipad mini 2, even more ancient ipad mini and any codes that they insist I use need to be sent to less ancient but more useless 6tg gen ipood touch

ThiunderBalllchange · 23/06/2019 00:24

Why do you need access to a second Apple device to set up an iPad? That’s bollocks right there. For someone who claims to be tech savvy, you sound anything but.

SisyphusDad · 23/06/2019 00:26

It may take 10 minutes if you follow Apple's way of doing things to the letter. But I don't want to do that because, as a technically competent person, I have our environment set up a particular way, and I don't want to be forced to use an Apple email address and I don't want to have to buy a second - expensive - Apple device simply to approve the download of free apps that the school wants. And there is no way of doing it without an Apple device. You can't do it from an Android phone or tablet and you can't do it from a browser on a Windows PC. And I can't authorise downloads of perfectly innocuous software from anything other than an Apple device. So forgive me for being a bit cranky.

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HepzibahGreen · 23/06/2019 00:31

I will not be going to the Parents' evening where they deliver a patronising lecture on the dangers of the Internet partly because I will find it very hard not to disgrace myself and partly because I've somehow managed to bring my kids up in an atmosphere of mutual trust and respect.

Eh? OK then. I expect the parents of the kids I know who have been exposed to hardcore porn and online grooming also trust their children. Personally I prefer to actually learn about how to protect my children online. Shame so many parents think they have all the answers.

stupidboyman · 23/06/2019 00:31

I don't have an Apple email and I don't need a second device to set anything up.

SisyphusDad · 23/06/2019 00:32

Thiunder

You can indeed set up an Apple device without a second device, but if the main device is used with a child's Apple ID, you cannot do things like approve an 'Ask to Buy' request on anything other than an Apple device. I suggest you do your research before posting such comments.

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Chopmyarmsoff · 23/06/2019 00:33

Of course there’s a way of downloading apps without a second device. You don’t tell the kid the password, kid comes to you saying I need x,y,z - you approve or deny. Works perfectly well in our household.

Ask the school to provide list of required apps in advance. You can also pre-approve the downloading of free apps and set parentsal controls that limit age inappropriate stuff but of course being tech savvy you’re already aware of that.

TeddiesAreEverywhere · 23/06/2019 00:33

You aren’t forced to have an apple email address.

If you only have that 1 iPad, you shouldn’t be using the ask to buy feature as I’m pretty sure that’s part of family sharing, which is for multiple devices within the family.

Just have it so it requests the password every time an app is downloaded? Then your child can bring it to you to enter the password.

WingingWonder · 23/06/2019 00:35

You can- I have just approved an app for by son via email, nothing to do with apple only?

Hecateh · 23/06/2019 00:37

Apple hater here too -
Google integrates
Microsoft (much as I hate it) integrates
Amazon integrates

  • NO! We're special and entitled and you are being a Cf if you don't agree
mouldyhousemouldylife · 23/06/2019 00:42

Yanbu. I'm almost always a very calm person but technology can bring out the demon in me. Grin

Some people need a glass of Wine or a screwdriver to unhinge themselves from their own arseholes.

MyDcAreMarvel · 23/06/2019 00:48

You don’t need ask to buy ! Just download apps for them. The beauty of Apple products is that they are intuitive, very obvious how to set up and use.

MissConductUS · 23/06/2019 00:49

The Apple shares in my retirement account, which have done brilliantly in the last 10 years, thank you for your custom.

JemSynergy · 23/06/2019 00:52

I dislike Apple too, I have a Macbook and everything seems to be so long winded and takes twice the time. The endless passwords and keywords that I never seem to remember. I am an android user because I just hate iPhones so much.

Golightly133 · 23/06/2019 00:52

My husband has a visual impairment and apple products have built in accessibility that makes his life so much easier
No android devices have this, we are all apple it makes such a difference here

SisyphusDad · 23/06/2019 00:53

Apple does not email me with requests to approve. I have checked. Several times

Google 'Ask to buy on Android / Windows'. It will tell you that you can not do it.

IOS does not seem to work that way. I tried it. You have to completely log out it the iPad as the child and log on as the adult. I am not doing that every time I need to approve a download request.

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zen1 · 23/06/2019 00:53

How can he school make you buy an iPad? What would have happened if you couldn’t afford it?

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