To wish they would JUST SHUT UP

[AngeloMysterioso]

I live in a block of flats, on the 3rd floor. At the back there is a little sort of play area bit where kids from our block and the block next to us go and play. As kids do, they get pretty loud, and by that I mean really bloody loud. All. Day. Long.

But as I type this, at nearly half past fucking ten at night, there are 7 or 8 of them playing down there now, and they are screaming. I do mean literally screaming. They go on the roundabout thing, they scream, they chase each other around, they scream. No idea where their parents are, I don’t think they’re all from the same family.

On top of that the flat on the bottom floor beneath us has had a barbecue on the go all afternoon. There are about 10-15 of them down there and they must all have some sort of hearing problem because they talk so loudly that from three floors up I can clearly hear their chat and laughing and shit music.

It’s annoying enough that they do it during the day, but it’s late at night, I’ve had a bloody long day, I’m 23 weeks pregnant and I’m tired, I just want to chill out with my windows open so I can get a bit of a breeze and cool my flat down. But if I want to even attempt to block out some of the screaming and noise (it’s impossible to block it out entirely) I have to hermetically seal myself in a boiling hot flat.

Going by experience, it will be like this every weekend for the rest of the summer.

AIBU to wish they would all just shut the fuck up?!

Noise complaint at the council. Too late for this.

YANBU. really, it would drive me fucking mad.

Do you have earplugs op? Hope you manage to get some rest. Inconsiderate fuckers.

It's the same round here in summer some nights. I wonder if the council would lock the play park after 7pm or something like that.

gotmychocolateimgood I do, and I have to use them when I go to bed or even just want to have an afternoon doze, but DH and I are trying to wind down in our living room at the moment (we’re both too pissed off to go to sleep!). We’ve got the radio on but we’ve had to turn it up to hear it over the racket coming from outside which rather defeats the object!

Mummoomoocow tried that last summer. They didn’t give a damn. Also made a complaint about the people directly below us smoking crazy amounts of weed and hotboxing our flat, they didn’t give a damn about that either.

Right now we’re being treated to a nice bit of garage. Screaming and So Solid Crew at nearly 11pm... fuck my life.

this is the exact same for me!! For one I dont know how parents let there children out so late by themselves (wether its at the flats or not) & the noise they make sometimes i can hear clear as day through my locked windows!! The kids are lovely and always play with my DD when i take her out to play, but trying to get her to sleep whn she can hear them all is near impossible. I have tried to talk to parents but they tell me to "lighten up" i guess not everyone has work or wants there children home & settled for a reasonable time

I have a feeling the local play park thing is locked at dusk here

So the kids play in the corridor. Drives me nuts.

Flats, houses.....all I can see is that some parents let their kids make a racket whenever they like.

Agree ear plugs don’t help much. Someone always suggests white noise, which is just adding an extra layer of annoying noise, then someone else will say I should live in a field. I will totally do that when I can!

So Solid Crew....well, even I’m speechless at that choice. Sorry op.

You absolutely should not have to wear earplugs in your own home. It's so selfish to be noisy

Sorry for rage but I'm so cross on your behalf OP. Children should be in bed or playing reasonably quietly late at night. It's not fair on other people.

I could of written this myself. Drives me bloody nuts.

It's infuriating isn't it, my downstairs neighbours are blaring their music so loud it's vibrating my floor in my upstairs bedroom, next door to them are all smoking weed and also blasting music and talking loudly and I just want to sleep!

The screaming thing drives me completely batty. I live close to a day care and every year there is at least one kid who seems to think full on screaming is a form of play. Not crying, not laughing, but screaming as loud as possible. I just don't get it. My own kids and grandkids could certainly make noise, but screaming like that was just not on.

I can hear the screamers even in the dead of winter with widows and doors closed. Writing a letter did not help. They can't seem to figure out I am talking about screaming, not crying. The simple noise of children playing or crying, fine, but please no screaming!

My sympathies.

The play area bit isn’t a park, it’s just an area with a roundabout, a few of those rocking back and forth things (I don’t know what they’re called) a few patches of grass and some benches. It’s enclosed so you can only get in with an entry fob, unless you’re on the back of the ground floor where their garden gates go straight out onto it. There were flower beds at some point but they’re long gone from being trampled on/having footballs kicked into them. At any given point there are at least half a dozen bikes/tricycles/scooters left out there. There’s been a broken goalpost out there since last summer.

I went to have a quick nap at 7ish, didn’t want to put my earplugs in as I sleep more deeply with them in and just wanted a light doze. Gave up after half an hour or so as the din of yelling and screaming children/chat, laughing and music and some other arsehole was drilling somewhere as well was just too loud. It was bloody ridiculous.

This time of year definitely makes things worse on the noise front.

I'm surprised no one has piped up about how normal it is and how lovely the sound of kids playing is 🙄

I can't bear this sort of thing. I don't mean to be a killjoy; I have numerous issues and just cannot sleep at the best of times. Noise causes vibrations too, which go straight through me. And the shocks which jolt through me at surprise squeals and similar sounds, it can make me feel I'm about to throw up, thanks to how sensitive I am.

My kids have gotten better over the years and they understand to some extent that I can't cope with various things. Feel damned guilty they have to be mindful of that. But I make sure they get time outside and doing activities where they can run, skip, shout and let it all out. Appropriately.

It sounds like you have little other choice than to move. I've lived in a few flats and a few areas in houses, where the entire neighbourhood/ village/ blah let's their kids run amok and at all hours.

It'll be harder when your baby is here because then it'll be the outside kids, druggy neighbours and so on, plus a screaming newborn wanting feeding and holding 24/7.

I hope it improves.

Anarchy, I was on two of those threads today! Well, yesterday now.

Hope we can all get some sleep.

DH and I are in the process of trying to move, but it’s been setback after setback with no end in sight- we had the offer on our new place accepted in February FFS! One reason we were so desperate to move was because we just couldn’t face another summer of this bullshit every weekend (and most weeknights til usually about half 9-10). Our flat gets insanely hot on sunny days and the only way to cool it down in the evening is have all the windows and balcony door open, but then the noise and barbecue/pot smoke comes pouring in. We were utterly miserable last summer. Now it looks like we have no choice but to endure it again.

I live in a sauna flat too
Though last summer there wasn’t any cool air to let in.

It's not acceptable op. I don't understand why some people don't recognise the impact their noise has on others.

I'm so sorry for you. I would hate to live somewhere like that and was going to suggest you try to move but I see you do have something in the pipeline. I hope it doesn't take too much longer for you to get your new house.

I find more and more that I just don’t understand people. To me it seems obvious that from 7pm you don’t allow your children to be noisy. Or be too noisy yourself so no loud music etc. That’s how I’ve always done it. Neighbours could have babies/toddlers to get to sleep or need to go to bed early...it’s just common courtesy.
I suppose all you can do is focus on moving and appreciate the fact that at least you can, a lot of people are sadly stuck where they are accommodation-wise.

I often find the voices of children annoying, but I never heard of any rule that said that 7 pm is the magic hour of silence in the suburs, especially in the summer. We have several screamy bunches of kids nearby. But I'm glad they are outdoors. That's where kids are supposed to be.

Durgasarrow I wouldn’t expect it at 7pm but maybe half 8-9ish onwards- certainly not 11 o’ clock at night! Pretty sure the only place kids are supposed to be at that hour is in bed!

Keep a log and make some recordings as evidence. Use earplugs for the time being and perhaps use a fan instead of the windows being open (I realise it’s a pain).

Everything is noisier at this time of year for whatever reason.