Does your husband make a big deal of PMT/PMS?

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Mine does. He seems to think I blow everything out of proportion at the same time every month. He seems to treat me like shit and then somehow blame my pms.

He always goes on, why you in a bad mood - I'm not, I'm usually very quiet and crazily tired so I lie there not wanting to communicate much but not in a bad mood. I tell him why I'm quiet so he is aware - otherwise I don't think he would know I was having my period

Does yours do this?? Is it acceptable coz I don't think it is!

My DH is usually aware when my period is due because I become a lot less physically affectionate during that week Even a simple cuddle makes my skin crawl.
But he has never and would never use my PMT symptoms as a stick to beat me with

He is at this constantly. But I genuinely think he wouldn't know unless I told him so he wouldn't have an excuse then for his behaviour towards me.

He's a complete dickhead at times - in fact for a long time and I'm so sick of it. Apparently I pissed him off this morning and he's been stewing about it all day but I had no idea I had pissed him off. This isn't right sure it isn't??

Sounds more like he's the one having a time of the month rather than you!

My DH always knew when I was on a period, I used to turn into a demon. Honestly thank God that's over now, but he was great at stocking up on my favourite chocolate and trying his best to make life a bit easier with the 3 kids.

I do think he has a time of the month!!!

Yeah my husband doesn't seem to give a shit about my feelings, emotions. He ate the last of the ice cream when I was pregnant. I should have realised then what I was up against!!

No because he isn't a dick. I absolutely abhor men who use periods as an excuse to call their partners unreasonable... usually it means they're behaving like dicks and aren't happy to be called out on it.
Not acceptable at all.

My poor DH has three women closely in synch, in this household. Maybe your DH ought to come here OP. He might learn to appreciate how good he's got it! (Thankfully the cat got spayed).

No because he’s not a twat.

I always get a bit tetchy a few days before, but he never says anything, he also knows while I’m on my period I don’t particularly want affection so he just leaves me be.

Op your husbands behaviour is shit

No never, he wouldn't be brave enough, although he'd have every right PMS causes lots of heartaches in this house. As I mentioned before I have PMDD.
He might mention how happy and relaxed I am when I am not suffering on my good fortnight as we call it.

My dh hates me being on my periods but for the right reasons, he hates seeing me in pain, hates how uncomfortable I am. He is my hot water bottle

He did used to yes.

But that's because I was a total cunt when I was due on.

I used to make when I was due on on my calendar. My DH would automatically be a defensive arsehole, that would get my back up and it was a horrible cycle.

So I stopped marking it on the calendar and it helped a lot.

You need your DP to not know when the PMT is here.

If it helps, misogynistic abusive men do exactly what you're describing here. It seems a favourite tactic in the coercive control repertoire.

Yep....
I am fully aware that for some where in the region of 48/72 hours I am an emotional train wreck. I’m sad, I’m weepy, and occasionally I’m angry.
Every single month he would roar at me that I was hormonally imbalanced and didn’t the whole world know that it was the time of the month.
One of the very many reasons he is now my ex husband

Not once in all the years we have been together.

No big deal, no snide comments, not even a raised eyebrow.

My teen dd gets annoyed when boys in her class go on about it. Wonder where they get it from ...

I really wish I had met one of these men instead of the narcissistic twat I ended up with. Honestly, it is such a hassle for him to have a wife I often wonder why he bothered asking me!

Shame I have a son who is going to grow up with him as his example, I will try in vain to teach him how to treat women properly!!

You could prevent your son growing up watching him treat you this way.

You could leave the bastard. Sounds very much like you need to.

Yup mine does and it really gets my back up. But I do become horrendous to be around. That is his only flaw. He is great in every way but this does wind me up. We've had chats and he will try and stop using it against me and I will try and reign my snappiness in. Still bugs me a lot though

My husband has literally never ever mentioned it. He is very good at doing ice cream runs when I'm pregnant too! Your husband sounds a bit shit tbh OP.

along with some of the others... no because hes not a dick, he will offer to get me a heat pack or some pain pills if i say im in pain and because of a post on here, if he is out and i call and ask him to get me some tampons he will do so with no problems or comments, cause hes not a dick

I don't have periods but my husband would never be such a misogynistic dickhead. Ltb

This is an interesting thread and I agree wholeheartedly with those that suggest that this is a tactic of abusive and misogynistic men.
Op, it doesn’t sound like he’s good for you.
Although. My pmt did really get worse in an abusive relationship. It took all my energy for the rest of the month to live my fake life, suppressing everything I felt, being constantly gaslighted.
Walking on eggshells, trying not to say the wrong thing . The enormity of the stress of living with a man prone to violent rages. Those days before my period when my body was drained, I simply didn’t have the energy to keep up the facade .
Every month my emotions would erupt from nowhere, like an illumination of the full extent of my situation. A total reality check in the week before my period. It would wipe me out and I’d retire to bed, devastated, unable to function, weeping, exhausted.
He nearly destroyed me before I walked away, but I did. And guess what? My pmt reverted to just fancying a bit of chocolate. Much better.

Really interesting take Leather, it is relative to how our lives are and I probably am living a fake life most of the month without realising. I genuinely don't think mine is even that bad anyway, yes I'm a bit snappier and have less patience than usual but I'm generally exhausted so just sit in silence with no energy then I'm accused of being in a bad mood.

I went and got the pill there that stops you having a period on holiday and his comments were, Will that not fuck you up coz you were fucked up when you were on the pill. It made you mental for years.....

Say “clearly. That must be why I sleepwalked through a relationship with such a dick”.
Then go and enjoy your holiday alone x

Not a big deal but it is very obvious when it’s due. I’ve always found the week running up to my period is the worst, I feel irrational and emotional but as soon as it arrives it’s like a huge relief.

I am a dick during PMS and have admitted this. I try my hardest not to be but it’s like my brain gets invaded by some sort of evil monster for a week.