How long is too long

[Brandaris]

How long would you be happy to have your FIL stay in your home?

AIBU to say that 19 days is too long even for the nicest FIL? I was originally told he would be here a week but it’s starting to feel like he’s moved in. I have about 5 days to go before he (hopefully!) leaves and I’m not sure I can stand it. I hope I’m a good host but about 5 days is plenty for me and I just want my home back.

DH doesn’t understand at all and thinks the longer the better.

The underwear was not in his room. It was draped over the hand towel I had put fresh in the family bathroom that morning. He can throw them over the light shades in his room for all I care, I’m not going in there so he can do what he likes, I just don’t want to find them in the rest of the house!

My brother and niece are staying 6 weeks over the summer, my mum for a month and my nephew for 12 Days... i am really happy about it and glad dh isnt an unfriendly sod who wouldnt welcome them. I am pretty envious of those people whose family live in the same country or continent, and can see family whenever they want, you are lucky.

I'd say there's no answer that would be the same for everyone. I've had my in-laws stay with us for five days when we lived abroad and that was enough even though they are lovely. My dad stayed with my DH for two weeks to help out when I was in hospital and DH said it was easier than having me at home. He loved having someone to watch footie and drink beer with when kids were in bed. My dad is super hands on and helped tons plus he was the only person who my DH could talk to about how hard things were for him. I think he would have happily had him for longer. But your situation sounds rubbish. I'd make up some random excuse that would gently but firmly point out he's got to go. Sounds like he's overstayed his welcome and isn't even being very considerate whilst staying.

I totally thought this thread would be about Dicks.

My lovely FIL sadly passed away last year. I would happily have let him move in with us if the situation had ever arisen.
MIL, on the other hand. An hour is too much. I told DH that if she ever plans on moving in, I'll be moving out. I mean it too.

Mine comes for three weeks at a time four times a year. He lives abroad. We like it although I do joke that over the year I probably spend a lot more time with him than my family who are local.

This probably is not want you want to hear, but I would give anything to have family..
It's a lonely path without them Op.
The time he's spent with you has likely given him a lot of good memories..and in the grand scheme of things two weeks in the company of him (and his pants) is nothing really. Focus on the good things 😊.

My mum is coming over for 4 weeks. You got off lightly!