Why do I hate my partner

[FyEnwiYwLucy]

Not so much AIBU because I know I am, but I just don't know what to do.

We've just had DC2 and I've been on the pill for 2 weeks. I can't help but resent my partner! I can't tell you why, but he makes my blood boil! When I'm angry at him I don't care about his feelings, but when I've calmed down I feel so unbelievably shit that I've treated him like this. So my only two emotions at the moment are anger or sadness! I can't imagine how drained he is and what impact this is causing our 2 little ones.

Earlier this week, we had a pretty big argument, mostly to do with me being in a foul mood. Other than that, he's handling it really well. Trying to help as much as he can, offers me emotional support and just generally wants me to be happy. Yet I'm so horrible to him. I'm really struggling and have no idea why I feel like this. I just want help and advice as to what I can do/has this happened to anyone and what did you do to resolve this

OP i felt like this too, after the birth of my second. But I feel closer now and more in love than ever with my DH. He’s really wonderful and supportive and I was horrible to him for a while. I don’t know why. I think exhaustion, sleep deprivation, all the hormonal madness postnatally. We are great now a year on. Having a baby is a huge physical, emotional, hormonal and psychological change. Hopefully it will improve, but maybe consider whether the pill might be contributing, and whether PND could be a factor.

For me, pregnancy made me hate my DP. Literally, he could tell I was pg before I POS, and when I miscarried, the only consolation was not hating him anymore.
Hormones can really mess you up - the pill made me suicidal.
I’m obviously extra nuts, but this does sound like a hormone thing to me. Talk to the GP (and not the horrible HV).
FWIW, the copper coil has been brilliant for me.

Stop the pill. See if you return to normal and go from there.

And the hv can do one. Do you even want to think about sex at 2weeks pp?! I know it was the furthest thing from my mind, and I certainly had more pressing things to worry about...

I hate my husband for at least 3-6 months after both babies. He's a good bloke but motherhood is soo fucking hard it's unfair and I blame him for it! Found once baby is less clingy an dmore interested in him I begin to tolerate his presence!

Also we're u on the pill when you met him? Apparently the pill mimics pregnancy which makes you crave someone who is more like family/kin & safe. When not on the pill you seek a genetic diversity and a macho man who is very different from family.

The pill was terrible for us.

If you've JUST had dc2, I'd just lay off sex for a bit.

Second kid is hard work, you need to be on top form to get through happily.

Good luck