NC due to the issue below.
Split with ex several years ago due to his violence. He was cautioned with assaulting my child (not biologically his).
He is still allowed access to our biological child. He has never paid any maintenance and continued to be verbally abusive/threatening towards me. He has parental responsibility. He stalks me on social media. I’m not posting anything nasty about him or anything to wind him up. He’s just obsessed with me and I feel he is still trying to control me.
He tells others the marriage breakdown was my fault. He denies ever being violent and claims I made it up for attention seeking. I do have all the paperwork to prove what happened. He lied about his past when he was married to me and I wouldn’t have married him if I’d known he had a history of being violent. I assume his current partner is unaware of his past.
Our child has fallen out with a child who lives near his house. It’s just the usual trivial children falling out on social media. I have spoken to our child about it and reminded them of how they should behave. They have apologised and shown remorse and promised not to do it again. As far as I’m concerned, it’s over and should really be forgotten about.
During this incident, he has found out that our child has told the other childs parents about his history of domestic violence. He is furious about this. He has logged into our childs mobile and disabled it remotely. He has done this before out of sheer spite. I don’t know the log in to reactivate the phone.
He claims the other childs parents have involved the Police as a lot more serious bullying has gone on. He won’t tell me what the bullying is, won’t tell me the name of the officer dealing with this and said the Police need the phone for their enquiries. He wants to read all of our childs activity on the phone. Our child has no idea what this bullying is.
Our child doesn’t want him to read their private conversations. There’s nothing alarming in the conversations but they’re a young teen now and feel uncomfortable with their Dad reading their personal conversations.
I have several abusive messages threatening that he is going to report me to the Police, drag me through the courts and all sorts. He’s even threatening to withdraw permission to take our child abroad on a holiday that I’ve already paid for in the school holidays.
I’m just sick of living in fear of him and his threats. This incident has upset our child and they have said they don’t want to see him again.
What is the best course of action to take now? Would the Police be able to do anything or will that make things worse?