Aibu to think I’ve made too many mistakes in life to be happy

[Michaelschofield]

I’m 37 with 4 kids. I’ve been in a relationship for 14 years. Not married. DP father to all kids.

I’ve managed to get into uni this year after being at home for 11 years. My aibu is I am not happy with my DP, he has turned angry along with other issues, like being wrapped up in work, not spending proper time with the kids. DP can’t communicate and resolve issues. The terrible atmosphere is affecting the children now and I think I want out. My concern is the children and the effect on them . I’m worried about being a single mother and supporting the kids financially. I feel like my life has never really taken off. Do I try and make the effort with DP once again or make the split now?

I am scared about the future . I feel I will never be truly happy due to having to always worry about money and housing. I’m near London, so high living costs.

Please help me turn my life around

Have you tried counselling? When did he turn into an angry workaholic? Has this been the case for a long time? Is this something you could work through, if he was on board? Does he know you want out?

He won’t try counselling. He knows I’m not happy and I want out. He still refuses to talk as he is angry with me for not giving him intimacy. I haven’t wanted to due to resentment over how I’ve been treated. Feel like I should make it work for kids sake.