AIBU to think of a 5 year old toddler a bully?

[bakingmads]

Is 'bully' a word that can be associated with someone so young?

This kid, let's call her Ruby. She's had issues throughout nursery. Apparently struggled playing with more than one kid at one time and is known for always excluding other kids.

Well turns out she's still doing it now at primary school. But what's interesting is it seems so calculated. And she says really mean things.

Is it possible for a kid that age to be 'bullying' or is the kid 'just establishing boundaries' lien her mum says. Do all kids say mean things to each other?

@Lizzie3869

This is the thing. 'Ruby's' parents seems really nice. They both have good jobs and her other siblings are lovely.

The other issue is trying to comfort our daughter and understand why she is being targeted.

And help her just move on and now let this affect her.

But parents can be nice whilst nevertheless making mistakes in their parenting. All children are different. What worked for one child won't necessarily work for another.

I wonder if the school have actually told her parents what's going on? If they haven't then they haven't had the chance to put it right. If one of my DDs was being unkind to another child in the class, I would want to know about it.