To be annoyed and huff all day

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I’m 17weeks pregnant with twins and have a 5yo DD

She is not my OHs but he’s good with her. I have been exhausted this week and he was away three days with work. My DD is not a good sleeper so I already have broken sleep and now the uncomfortable back pain has started so isn’t helping.

My OH seen how tired I was last night and said he’s get up with DD And let me lie on. Like clockwork she is up from 630 and after waiting a few ten after she came in I eventually got up with her OH said where are you going and I said I’m gonna get up with DD and he turned round and went back to sleep. Fair enough she is not his DD but what annoys me
Is that he makes out to our family and friends that everything is split equal in our house he’s good with washing and tidying up but the main cleaning, cooking everyday and washing up and bed time and bath time forDD are done by me. I work full time too. He will then go on about how we aren’t having enough sex (we have sex two or three times a week from I’ve got of) but I’m so so tired all the time. My family said let Tom look after things for a while and get you some sleep and he sits and nods then does Fuck all!!! Argh I’m so annoyed I won’t huff all day but I do feel like telling him to leave me alone for the whole day when he gets up

Why didn't you just wake him up? It's annoying you have to but don't be a martyr just nudge him and say 'time to get up'.

Op I think you’ve left his name in the original post you might want to report it.
He’s a useless shit if that helps.

I changed the name lol

I would wake him but it’s just obv he didn’t want to do it anyway to give me a wee bit of a lie in. If it was his own DD I would wake him but I feel awkward asking him to watch DD I rather him offer and then actually carry it out iyswim

He offered, but then you took over anyway - why?

Wake him and keep nudging him until he gets out of bed!

Well he'll have to step up when the twins come that will be a whole new ball game

but does not look promising seeing as he doesn't do much now does it

I’d have pushed him out slowly until he got the hint.

Whether or not DD is his child you are a family unit, and soon will have another two children’s to add to the mix, he needs to get his act in gear.
I’m a similar amount of week pg but only carrying one baby, and my back is killing me, I can’t imagine it’s a picnic carrying two so poor you!

Get the house work division sorted before you have your twins. He should be doing half, and if he was kind he should do more when you're exhausted.

I wonder why you don't want to have sex with him? -because he's a selfish lazy arse-

You need to stop doing most of the housework. Tell him it's not fair and ask him how he thinks it should be made equal. Do it before you go on maternity leave because it sounds like he will expect you to do everything.

You need to get over the awkwardness over DD. You will have a child together soon. Does that mean you'll never be able to leave DD with him because she's not his? You're a family now and he needs to behave like it.

He’s got up.

I’ve been called ‘grumpy’ three times I said I was tired and he said ‘you always say that’.

Gonna get ready and head out with DD for a treat day thanks for letting me rant