So I planned a family lunch tomorrow to tell my Dad and wife the news that there is a 2nd grandchild on the way. I messaged my Dad 3 times this afternoon and tried cslling him. Once for a phone number, 2nd to say thanks for no. and see yous tomorrow (DH also got it touch for number - it was urgent, my Dad messaged him back but not me) then a 3rd to check that we were still on for tomorrow. I know he seen the messages (whatsapp), I also know he was in the pub and most likely alone (this is normal for him) but no response from him whatsoever. I feel ignored. Background is he can be moody, angry, grumpy, negative - we have a strange relationship, I'm rarely myself (he's very judgemental of others so I don't give him much to judge) but in some ways he is there for me, i.e. money, babysitting. When he ignores me I find it intolerable. Like I have done something wrong and I don't know what. It also makes me pine for my grandparents (both brought me up, both are long dead, neither would have ever ignored me). So now I don't want to meet for lunch and I don't want to tell them my happy news. I don't know if I'm being ridiculous or not. I just feel like hiding. I can't do much because he's so defensive that I wouldn't dare tell him how he made me feel. I just have to constantly dance to his tune. 