Constant baby messages

[imgoingtoburst]

So I probably Abu as I realise people are excited but here goes my little rant! 😂

I'm currently 39 weeks, have not had an easy pregnancy. I am desperate to have baby and for her to be here and healthy etc.

For the last 3 weeks I have had constant texts from people asking if she is here yet or if there is any sign. For what it's worth I do look ginormous so people have constantly said she would be early but I haven't measured big particularly.

A lot of the texts have been from people I rarely speak to, and mostly from my ILs with whom I am very lc. Before this I would see them with Dh maybe three or four times a year and now they are texting me daily. Dh tried to have a word but it has had no affect and sometimes sil just sends me random messages clearly to see if I reply. I understand people are excited, but when we have no prior relationship it feels a bit overwhelming and frustrating! Today mil text both dh and I in a group message asking again any sign of her granddaughter to which dh replied no and she then asked directly if I'd lost my plug yet 😳😳 This woman has a huge backstory with me, refused to speak to me on our wedding day, has told dh I am not good enough and now wants to know what's falling out of my vagina (sorry that's very graphic I'm just 🤬).

I just needed to rant sorry all!!!

You don't need to answer. Block the lot of them. If you have another baby, tell them the due date is a month past what it actually is so baby is a fab surprise and no-one harasses you!

Please just block them for now. Let dh deal with them. I had 3 dc with e xh and mil never had my mobile number!

I should say I started ignoring any questions about baby and only answering general ones but that hasn't worked. Then I started ignoring their messages completely so now they message dh and I together (I let him deal with it). Also the other day dh sent mil a picture of a random newborn saying oops forgot to tell you (I think he is as frustrated as I am at this sudden need for contact when they've been so crap in the past) but mil didn't get it at all and said she hoped our baby was as beautiful and had blonde hair like sil (I have blonde hair 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️).

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@Cherrysoup we have never told them the due date as I knew this would happen we just said beginning of July (little lie!) but they keep saying ah she will be early etc as you're so big. I haven't even seen them since I was 24 weeks!!!!

@Walkamileinmyshoesbeforeujudge I wish so much that they never had my number. They seem completely oblivious to their shite behaviour in the past (although dh has pulled them on it and they said they'd apologise then never did!). They seem to think they are going to be heavily involved even though we have made it clear things won't be changing much after she is born (unless their behaviour massively changes!). Blocking them now would cause more drama than it's worth so I just ignore and let dh deal 🙈

@DappledThings omg I love that!!! 😂😂

Would it cause too much hassle to change your number?
I have had it like this too. People didn’t care one jot about me, didn’t ask after me when I’d been ill, successful at work etc but then baby on the way and I’m public property! Why don’t I want to spend time together? Why don’t I answer my phone? Etc etc etc

Sorry, think I’ve projected a bit there

Try replying with “no news is now news )

@Gustavo1 haha no I understand exactly why you have said all that!! It's exactly how I feel! ILs have wanted very little to do with us (especially me and have been very rude in the past) but now I'm pregnant they want involvement at the most personal level!!!

dh thinks I should text back with loads of detail to try and shame them into stopping asking but I think they have no shame so it would just end up with more questions!!!

We have already limited what we tell them as mil overstepped boundaries at the beginning of the pregnancy by telling everyone (we wanted to delay as I've lost a few babies) and then sharing our scan photo on Facebook 🤦‍♀️

God help me when this baby comes. Thank god dh is normal (ish) 😛

Could you try being blunt and say you're finding it a bit stressful keeping everyone updated so won't be looking at your phone and will make sure everyone knows when baby has arrived?

Today mil text both dh and I in a group message asking again any sign of her granddaughter to which dh replied no and she then asked directly if I'd lost my plug yet

DH needs to respond with, "We'll let you know when the baby has arrived. And Mum, it really is none of your business about the plug, I'd appreciate it if you'd not overstep in such a way again."

I'd be delaying telling them when baby is here otherwise they'll be on your doorstep before you're even home. Definitely don't let them have any pictures until you're ready, or MIL will likely again share on FB before you want them to.

Maybe message them regarding your mahoosive piles?
Or constipation?

@Banhaha that's what dh said to them and mil was like ahh we are just excited to see baby etc etc then they dialled it down for maybe a couple of days before it began again 🤦🏻‍♀️ They seem to have a rota (mil, fil and two sil) to text each day as if that's less obvious 🙄.

@hookiwooki he has replied saying 'tmi mum we will tell you when she is here'
Honestly they have no filter.

@TixieLix oh without a doubt they have been told we will tell them when she is here and when we are ready for visitors but that we are having some time to ourselves first. Dh is adamant no visitors for at least a day or two so that we can all settle in a bit! And he has told them in no uncertain terms that we don't want baby on SM or they will receive no further pictures etc. He has been very good to give him credit :-)

@walkamileinmyshoesbeforeujudge haha I genuinely don't think they'd think anything of that! Sil told me all about her best friends tear and piles etc (I've never met the woman but feel like I know her vagina well!) I won't be sharing any information like that just in case 😂

Please don't tell them when you go into labour and leave your phones at home.

Yes, my ILs in particular weren’t interested in me at all until I was pregnant. Now they hardly leave me alone

Tell everyone you'll be updating your WhatsApp status (with messages, photos etc.) once a day instead of answering individual messages.

A friend this recently throughout labour, e.g. "thanks for the messages of support, not much to report as yet, stage 1 of induction underway and feeling excited!" She has continued to use WhatsApp status to share photos of her baby too

Good luck @imgoingtoburst

and then mute your groups :)

God I remember this!!! Every single day, the same texts.. ‘any twinges?’
Twinges?? Bloody twinges???? I have an 8lb baby sitting on my vagina kicking me in the hoof at all hours of the day and night.. I have random stabbing pains when I walk like a knitting needle has been shoved into my cervix and is stabbing my insides.. my back is aching like never before, my chest is on fire with heart burn.. f*ck right off to buggery with your ‘twinges’

Ide reply really sarcastically
Midwife said 4 cm but need a second opinion if youde like to come measure?

Get dh to text them and say ‘sorry but dw’s phone is knackered, and it’s frozen on the home screen, so sorry she can’t see or reply to anything you send’