To feel sad and a little sorry for myself

[Fudgecakes]

All my jewellery had been stolen or lost....☹

I was always a total magpie for jewellery loving anything sparkly and was lucky enough to be indulged by mum and dad and later my boyfriend who was to become DH. Don't get me wrong...not talking Van Cleef and Arpels.. High St stuff. Mostly rings which I adore. Little Precious stones and 9ct gold. All hugely sentimental. Also a few bits of my Gran's treasures given to me by my dad.

So...burglary no.1...abroad. stole most of my clothes and all the jewellery I had with me

Burglary no 2....at home. Smash and grab in broad daylight. Neighbours saw it all. Roured up on the drive , kicked in front door, took electricals and my entire jewellery box. Gran's heirlooms gone 😭

Fast forward 15 years. Burglary no 3. Different house. Returned from a short break to find back patio doors smashed in. Upstairs ransacked and again....jewellery box gone. Worse was my engagement ring was taken...I hadn't been wearing it as one of the stones was loose. 😭😭😭

After 2nd burglary I should have hidden it all away but I kind of thought I'd had my lot of bad luck by then

To top it off this week I've lost a gold earring DH bought me and a Pandora ring 😭

I hate to think about it but I know I'll inherit DMs jewels one day...I'm scared I'll lose those too

Don't know why I'm posting but everytime I think about all this I feel so sad. It's all gone...they were MY things and have just been taken away from me.

Thanks for reading my self indulgent tale....i know far, far worse happens

That is shit!

It doesn't help now, but I think keeping jewelry in a nice handy stealable jewelry box in full view in a bedroom isn't the best way to hide your sentimentals. I also never take any jewelry abroad for fear of loss/theivery.

It does sound like you've had a real run of bad luck and obviously it's not your fault.

I'm really sorry to hear that OP.
For you

That’s a bad run of luck.

Thank you for your post. Yes...I know...I should have thought about ditching the jewellery box and being more secure. I guess a combination if thinking law if averages says it cant happen again and being defiant that this hs mu home, I like a jewellery box!!

What do you do all to keep your valuables safe?

I don't have any

We have a fire proof safe for important documents. I only have a couple of bits that are valuable (sentimental rather than monetary!). They live in small fabric bags which are tucked into an organiser which is full of odds and ends - like tissues, plasters, hairbands and so on. It looks like a completely bog standard collection of nothing worthwhile and you wouldn't know that the bits were there unless you went looking for them.

All the rest of my jewellery is kept together and it doesn't matter if it gets nicked as it's all cheapy Matalan and Asda stuff.

I fully understand how you feel - I am very into jewellery and love family pieces
I inherited all my grandmothers jewellery and lost some of it to a burglary over 30 years ago just before Xmas - whilst gutted I was relieved that said burglar must have been disturbed and only grabbed one box of stuff
I was worried about the security of where we were living whilst waiting for repairs etc so asked my boss if I could put rest of my jewellery in the safe at work
The works safe was broken into (hard to believe I know) on NYE! I lost everything including both grandmothers engagement rings - it still hurts now!
Thankfully I was well insured - but it couldn’t replace what I’d lost so I spent the money on house instead - new windows, doors, garden professionally landscaped, new kitchen
I swore that I would only buy one or two decent pieces of jewellery in future that I would wear at all times!
Stuck to it for over 10 years - then my magpie instincts took over n I started collecting again - although I do also sell things from time to time
I’ve been lucky enough not to be robbed again but have lost things occasionally including recently a diamond star ring I bought in memory of a close friend who died - it may sound silly but I still have pictures of me wearing it and that helps with memories
I would advise specialist insurance for anyone who has a reasonable collection rather than just covering under household insurance - it is more likely to cover true value backed up by photos and valuations and should provide worldwide all risk cover
For example I lost a stone from a ring dating from 1720s and it was not possible to easily replace the cut of the stone - had to wait months and buy another piece of jewellery and swap stones - my insurance covered this in full

oh Jace...how awful....unbelievably bad luck having your 2nd lot of treasures taken like that...although a long time ago you must have .

I did the same with my insurance payouts both times...took a reduced cash value. The first time I just bought a few bits eg a double daisy diamond ring to remind me of my gran and Auntie - some if her heirlooms were taken too...so hard for dad as she passed away when she was only 21). That got taken in 2nd burglary. The 2nd time I used the payout for a car! I don't have much now....a few Pandora bits.. .that's it. I've told people not to bother.

All advice gratefully received....thank you.

My neighbour was burgled. Every drawer was emptied out, every place was turned out and searched, even the dolls house. Her bed was pulled apart. They found every single thing of value including the one thing she cherished and had hidden.

I don't think you can keep anything safe if they are determined, but would like to know how.

My important things are kept in a safe in my wardrobe. Its cemented into the floor. My husband did it for me after my grandma left me some incredibly dear pieced to me. I also keep important docs and some old baby keepsakes in there. It's also fire proof. Nothing is of monetary value I don't think, they are just very important to me.

I knew someone that had a safe. Not long after they got it, someone broke in and threatened her and made her open it.

Beware of getting a safe, it isn't safe.

No advice but that is shit and I think you’re entitled to feel sorry for yourself. Well deserving of some chic and wine. I’d be gutted too, it’s not the price it’s the sentiment.

Oh that's awful OP! I despise theft so much it's just disgusting.
What about a good security system at home? Or CCTV and signs saying you have CCTV. May deter some people.

So sorry OP that you have been burgled so many times. That's just awful. You have every right to feel sorry for yourself.

@JaceLancs which insurer do you use, please? I have quite a bit of inherited jewellery with antique cut stones and I know I need to get cover for it. I’d be heartbroken if any of them got lost or stolen but at least I could claim something.