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How to make dd's birthday special whilst on holiday...

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Whatsername7 · 20/06/2019 20:57

This thread is inspired by another:

My dd turns 8 whilst we are on holiday. We are going to Disneyworld - a huge treat in itself - I realise this. However, there is a special reason for the holiday; my dad almost died last summer and was subsequently diagnosed with cancer (CLL - slow growing, no cure.) He wants to make memories with his grandkids whilst he is healthy so he has paid for our kids to go. We had little movement in the holiday dates due to my dads illness and all 8 adults jobs. Dh and I are paying for ourselves, its cost us a fair bit, but not as much as it should have due to my parents genorosity and, in the circumstances, totally worth it.
Anyway, all along, dd has been totally understanding about the fact that we won't be doing birthday presents in the same way as normal. As far as she is concerned, she is going to Disney world and doesnt care. However, im worried that, on the day, she might feel disappointed when she realises she doesnt have any actual presents. As her present, Ive booked her a princess makeover which is costing $70. Other relatives have kindly offered to give her dollars to spend whilst shes out there. My parents are going to buy her something of her choosing whilst we are away. She is very lucky, a great kid and im sure she will be greatful. But, Im worried her birthday might be a bit flat and lost within the holiday.
What other things can I do to make her birthday special? She isnt going to have a single present except for a card with the makeover thing in. Im just realising this and I feel crap. All the focus had been on saving to make this special because it might be my dads last big holiday. What can I do?

Also, please don't be mean - I don't spoil my kids. Usually £100 on birthday and £200 at Christmas. Usual holidays are a week in a caravan in Cornwall. There is a chance im over thinking but this holiday is a big deal for obvious reasons.

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Sweetooth92 · 20/06/2019 21:00

Can you let her plan the day? Make it all about her. Pick which park what you do. Where to eat etc? Unsure on your dinner plans but a character meal and surprise her with a cake? I’m sure she will have an amazing time

Leeds2 · 20/06/2019 21:03

Could you do the breakfast with Disney characters on her birthday?

Take some balloons and birthday banners to put up in the room.

Try and organise a birthday cake - I don't know, but I would imagine the restaurants would help with this.

If you are buying new holiday clothes for her, choose the nicest outfit and, maybe, a swimsuit and wrap them up as presents.

TeenTimesTwo · 20/06/2019 21:03

Make sure you take a gigantic badge saying Birthday Girl or 8 today or something she can wear on the day.
(ps you know lots of children where Disney princess costumes whilst in the park? We have lovely photo of DD2 in snow white with Snow White)

CMOTDibbler · 20/06/2019 21:04

Balloons and a banner sounds lovely, and make sure to ask people to do her cards before you go so you can take them with you.
Theres some ideas here on free birthday things to do - getting the cast members to sign a birthday card sounds great

JennyBlueWren · 20/06/2019 21:07

As others have said: make a fuss of her. Get her a big badge to wear so people know it's her birthday. Surprise her by filling her room with balloons in the night so she wakes up to it (we did that for a flatmate once). Let her choose where to go for lunch/dinner or rides to go on or whatever (I don't really know Disneyworld). Give her a cake with a candle in it.

geogteach · 20/06/2019 21:09

Doesn't have to be expensive to make it
Special. Dd was traveling back from holiday on her 8th birthday so no fuss made but we let her have the last hobnob in the packet... she is 16 now and it is still tradition that she gets hobnobs for her birthday

AllTheUserNamesAreTaken · 20/06/2019 21:11

Can you buy a few small inexpensive gifts to take with you so she has some things to open? That’s what we did for DS birthday when we were on holiday. A spider man t-shirt, a new book and an Avengers drinks bottle. He had his main present when it was his party before we went on holiday

Also, take balloons and banners to put up.

livingthegoodlife · 20/06/2019 21:12

My dad had her birthday at Disneyland Paris. Make sure you get a special birthday badge from Disney (city hall?) As they have special ones. My dad also got a special telephone call from Mickey! So let people know.

You can order cakes in Disney.

My daughter didn't even notice presents.

Whatsername7 · 20/06/2019 21:13

These ideas are brilliant- thank you!

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anothernotherone · 20/06/2019 21:13

Have them sing happy birthday to her in a restaurant that evening and bring out a cake with a sparkler on it. This is exactly what American restaurants/ service industry is good at. She'll remember that - being the centre of the restaurants attention for 5 minutes.

My parents did that for my sister's 12th birthday in Florida but did nothing on my 13th birthday 5 days later because it was changeover day and we were leaving the hotel to hire a motorhome. They said the restaurant meal was for both of us but it was my sister they sang to and her name on the cake ... I've never forgotten.

I can't remember a single parent I got before the age as 10, not because I didn't get presents, I did, but because presents aren't nearly as important as what happens on / to mark the day and having the special positive attention of everyone just for a few minutes once a year.

If she likes jewelry though you could easily get her a little Disney themed necklace so she has a present which takes up no space. Alternatively if she has an X box or access to a family one there's a kinekt Disneyland adventures game - things which take up very little luggage space.

FoddyWaddle · 20/06/2019 21:14

I would buy lots of american sweets that you can't buy at home and put them in a gift bag. That way you will not need to worry about luggage. My DD is a similar age and loves crafts so I would maybe pack a colouring set and some sort of craft set. So she has something to open.

Wrapping up something to wear is also a good idea if you are already buying some new clothes.

I think no matter what she will have an amazing birthday and in 20 years time she will just remember the experience and not what gifts she opened.

regularbutpanickingabit · 20/06/2019 21:18

Definitely take banners, balloons, string and white tac! Decorate the room overnight for her to wake up to. Big badge with her age on it. If you can take a couple of little wrapped gifts just to have something to open then that would be good... a book/cd/bracelet/photo album for her Disney pics or even a cheap Polaroid-style camera to take pictures of her makeover.
I’m sure you can get a cake when you are there so take an 8 candle. Then just tell every character/staff member you see all day so they sing happy birthday! Sure she will have a fantastic time.

AlbusPercival · 20/06/2019 21:20

Go to guest services on her birthday. They will give you a big birthday badge. The staff will fuss over her all day

AlbusPercival · 20/06/2019 21:22

this website has suggestions too

Lollyice · 20/06/2019 21:23

We surprised our DC with a trip to Disneyland Paris. We bought them all new Disney outfits to wear each day (from H and M, Tesco, Primark, eBay etc.) Nothing very expensive but they were really thrilled.

mcmen71 · 20/06/2019 21:23

Have her party before you go on holiday. Take cards with you.
Go shopping on the day with any money she gets., after the princess makeover.
Have a cake at resturant you eat dinner at.
There is character dinners and breakfast but are quite expensive if a big family.

LegallyBrunet · 20/06/2019 21:41

You can arrange to have birthday packs containing special birthday ears to your hotel room. I got one when I went for my 21st. You can also get birthday badges from guest services and most restaurants will do birthday cake brought out by the characters

Whatsername7 · 20/06/2019 21:43

Definitely going to organise the special badge. Balloons and banners too. We are staying in a villa so we can go all out. I will definitely get cards from other family to open. There are a couple of books that she loves so I will get those too.
Thank you all and thank you for being kind. Its been a tough year.

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Friedspamfritters · 20/06/2019 21:46

My eldest just turned 8 and would be thrilled with that (well he wouldn't because he doesn't like disney but assuming your DD does I'm sure she'll be over the moon). I think having all the family there giving her (even little) gifts and cards - a birthday cake and song and dinner and all the rest you have going on will make it very special for her. Definitely one to remember - unless you normally arrange a parade of elephants and giraffes I don't think you need to worry!

Waggily · 20/06/2019 21:48

Let her eat cake for breakfast. We were away for my son’s birthday last year and, due to circumstances, the cake was the only food we had. Apparently it was the best birthday ever!

iolaus · 20/06/2019 22:04

It was my son's birthday the day we came home from DisneylandParis - I'd mentioned it to the people at the hotel (I'd asked if there was any way they could get a card signed by mickey etc if they gave me a card) - they organised a birthday pack off the characters, colouring sheets, autographs, chocolates and balloons, and a phone call off of mickey mouse for free. They also gave him a birthday badge so before we went on tower of terror the cast member noticed and got everyone to sing happy birthday to him before they started the ride and a lot of the characters pointed it out to him etc

Aside from one present (and he picked something from the shops there on his birthday) he had the rest when he came home

I can't see DisneyWorld being any different

absolutelyknackeredcow · 20/06/2019 22:15

My daughter turned 8 on a trip to Disney world
...
Smile
First of all the whole thing was amazing. Secondly we booked the makeover thing (I was slightly sceptical) and it is without doubt the best money I have ever spent for a birthday . They talk about it all the time and her face that day was incredible.
Other things we did -
Birthday banner and balloons (very easy to pack) to wake up too.
Small gifts to open
Disney give you birthday badges and then people / staff/ everyone wish you happy birthday all day. It's amazing
We had some stuff booked including a special meal but then let her choose rest of day.
It was the best birthday ever and is very hard to match for future.
Sorry about your Dad

Whatsername7 · 20/06/2019 22:23

Thank you so much for the suggestions and for sharing your experiences. She would like to eat at The Cheesecake Factory and then go back to watch the fire works so I am going to book a meal there and see if they will do a birthday cake cheesecake with her name on.

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ineedaholidaynow · 20/06/2019 22:28

Having an August birthday I was on holiday a few times for my birthday as a child. I don't remember getting presents whilst away, but my parents always managed to organise a cake, and I always thought it was so exciting waiters bringing out the cake singing happy birthday!

Spirael · 20/06/2019 22:33

Is it Bibbity Bobbity Boutique you've booked your daughter into? Make sure they know it's her birthday when you check in and she'll get a special "Birthday Princess" sash to wear. Then pretty much everyone you meet will wish her a happy birthday! It'll be such a magical birthday that I'll bet she won't give gifts a second thought.

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