Teenage daughter

[mumof5nanof5]

My youngest is 19 and has finally admitted to dating a 30 year old
She has brothers and a dad
Am I wrong to find this weird.
Not comfortable with the situation

not sure of the relevance of having brothers and a dad?

but she is an adult - it's her business who she goes out with

Why do the brothers and dad matter?

I don't see the issue though...

You don't need to be comfortable with the situation, she's an adult. And connecting her brothers and her Dad her sexual preferences is weird.

Is she happy?? I really do understand your concern but is she quite mature for her age? Often girls are attracted to older men.

I was 20 when I met my partner, he was 33. We are still together and very happy now years on and have two DC.

When I was 18, I dated a 28 year old.

Let her work it out for herself. Unless you think he’s a danger I would interfere too much!

Wouldn’t not would

She’s an adult so it’s not really any of your business. I also don’t think it’s that unusual for a 19 year old and 30 year old to be together. I have friends who were or are in relationships with similar age gaps.

I don’t understand the relevance of the brothers or dad?

She's an adult, she can see whomever she chooses

Your reference to brother and dad though.... that's plain odd 🤨

id be grossed out a bit, but not much you can do at that age.
Id be worried they will rush into family making as hes that bit older and shes wooed by him being mature

I don’t think your wrong to feel wierd. I would be a bit freaked out. She may legally be considered an adult she is however a young adult, whereas he is a fully grown man wit considerably more life experience than your daughter. No way is she going to be his match mentally. There isn’t an awful lot you can do though, you might drive her further to him if you try and stop it. What’s he like have you met?

I’m pretty sure everyone on here has a father not 100% sure what you think that has to do with having a relationship with someone. I don’t have a brother, does this mean I’m allowed to sleep with more people?

What does a 30 year old have in common with a teenage girl?

Men that age usually get into relationships with teenagers because it means they are easier to control without realising they're being controlled.

The 'finally admitted' makes me a bit concerned she was hounded about this until she told you? That doesn't seem very healthy. Surely this is her business, to work out how she feels and bring you up to date when she feels comfortable. My partners have always been significantly older than me, including my now dh, and I would've been incredibly uncomfortable had my parents pushed me to include them earlier than I wanted.

Unless she's at university and he's a lecturer, or is in some other way abusing his power to take advantage of her - then surely this is just her living life?

'finally admitted'

What's that about? It suggests that she's been badgered incessantly. I don't think the age gap is great TBH but she's 19 and a legal adult so yes YABU.

Their maturity levels are probably at about the same level!

11 years is nothing.

30 year olds are still kids nowadays.

Whats the issue?