AIBU or is this manipulative behaviour

[Elliesmommy]

Someone I know;
Always plays the victim
Cannot be happy for anyone
Very jealous of other people
No friends- falls out with absolutely everyone
Behaves like a child
Must get their own way
Talks badly about people behind their back
Aggressive
Always causing drama wherever they go

What type of behaviour is this ? Possibly bi polar or depression/ anxiety

They sound like a twat. Some people are just are. Avoid.

Twat? Why do they need a label? Why do you care? Avoid, grey rock, block, laugh it off or dump. You have endless choices here.

They do sound very self centred, some people just are that way. It's frustrating, especially if it's someone close

Sounds like narcissistic characteristics. Steer clear if possible. Never bodes well.

This person used to be a friend and they stopped talking to me over something so small. I thought it was me but then when I sat back and thought of how they are it makes me think I have done nothing wrong. That's why I care. Thanks for the replies

Unfortunately people who behave this way rarely accept responsibility and tend to blame others for fallings-out rather than their own shortcomings. I wouldn't give this any more headspace, it sounds like you may actually be better off without this emotional drain in your life

Possibly bi polar or depression/ anxiety

None of that is symptomatic of bipolar or depression or anxiety

Ok, but why are you trying to pin random psychiatric diagnoses on their crappy behaviour?

Because last time I checked none of what you listed is in the diagnostic criteria for the conditions you've listed. So why are you maligning people with those diagnoses?

Doesn't sound like much of a loss as a friend tbh

Omg! I have bipolar 2 and I'm mostly adorable! I'm sure that's the case with most people who have bipolar. Bipolar tends to have flare ups with regard to behaviour if anything. But never a consistent pattern of being horrid. Like say I was having an episode and you decided to tell me I was doing something wrong that I didn't agree with; if I wasn't watching myself and you had form for being a scold then I might tell you to go fuck yourself you scolding twat.
If I feel dodgy I'd probably not be around you because of have said, I feel a bit dodgy-see you next week'. Do you see what I mean?
Mental illnesses are complex and sometimes amazing they do not equal bad behaviour. Often mentally ill people are more self aware than the "sane"

What type of behaviour is this ? Possibly bi polar or depression/ anxiety

It's primarily a social/emotional issue, not a mental health one IMO.

Don't dwell on it too much OP, trying to fix it or understand it. Accept that it's something they need to address, not you.

What was the something that was 'so small' op? And was it the straw that broke the camels back, rather than a simple singular occurance?

I had a 'friend' like this. She also stopped talking to me over some imagined slight. When I look back i she was just as you described and it is actually a relief that I no longer have to deal with it. I do think it's narcissistic behaviour

I don't think it sounds like bipolar or anxiety. Maybe a personality disorder or maybe they're just a bit of a twat. I know someone a bit like this (perhaps less extreme). She had a difficult upbringing which I think probably contributed to her personality issues. I doubt she'll ever change now.

Unless there's a lot of backstory here, (like they always play the victim because they're paranoid and convinced everyone hates them/is out to get them. Or behave like a child as in they have awful impulse control, and are acting manic, psychotic or odd, etc), then they sound selfish, self centred and maybe a bit immature, but not mentally ill.

Narcissist

@Elliesmommy

Oh boy, I've had that in my life.