People cursing at kids!!

[Tinydancer08]

So just needed somewhere to have a rant so the story is my 4 year old was out on his bike playing and got his bike stuck between the fence and a man's car not on purpose clearly an accident. But the man thought he would take it upon him self to f& blind at my 4 year old calling him a stupid cunt. I never talk back to no one but I had to step in and tell him not to speaking to him like that but he continue saying he doesn't give a fuck its a new car etc . I'm so angry feel like going scratching his new bloody car. Not that I would but where do people get the right to speak to children like this. He's not the only one round here that does it a few parents take it upon themselves to shout at other people's children. I would never raise my voice or curse towards a children whether they've done wrong or not.

So there’s no right of way.
You didn’t prevent him getting close enough to someone’s car to make them think he would damage it.
You weren’t watching your child as you have other kids.
It’s not the fault of the child. It’s the fault of the parent who is allowing them to play in a place that isn’t safe and suitable.
This person is probably sick of kids scraping by their cars in a car park.

I can't believe people are trying to justify a grown adult calling a 4 year old a 'stupid cunt!' surely no matter what the child had done, even if he had deliberately keyed the car or something, there would be no excuse for that kind of behaviour? I would be absolutely beside myself if someone used that kind of language towards my dc.

I was watching him I only have the one child I was stating a point u can't watch kids every second. There was clear path to get there when it was time to leave the cars were all parked there and no way by but by the time I got to my son he was stuck. Kids are quick especially on bikes. I'm not defending my sons actions at all and he was shouted at for it. But like I said I'm angry at the language even when I asked him to stop when there was no damage he continues to curse towards a 4 year old. The cars are literally parked towards the path and there's kids up and down it every day as its the green area they play at.

But it’s not a footpath? So they shouldn’t be.
You can watch kids if you choose to let them loose with a bike around cars.
Can you honestly not see why this man was pissed off? I wouldn’t call a kid a cunt. That’s horrid. But he sounds like he’s sick and bloody tired of kids squeezing past.

It's the first time it's ever happened that I know of. He doesn't park in the same spot it was his car there at the time. But they never leave room for people to get by u need to walk on the car park to get off the green. It's hard to explain. You have the fence then about 8 cars all lined up til the garages so no way by other than by the cars. Some days there space some days there isn't like today

And he has children of his own that go the same way like all the children do. My son took a wrong turn and got stuck as he clear didn't estimate there was enough room. Simple accident

Even if the OPs toddler drove straight into a legally parked car it would still be massively out of order for the man to call her child a cunt.
It is indefensible and anyone saying they would be ok with their child being spoken to that way is a liar.

It’s up to you to prevent an accident which could lead to costly repair work on his car.
A 4 year old shouldn’t be put in this position. Go with him to the park. Be with him.

So if you have children the only place they play is in a park. No greenery? Kick about playing on a bike. Bikes aren't a safe place in a park he could knock down a child so the better place for that is an open space but unfortunately there's a car park attached to it. And it was a one off accident.

Thank you to the ones that agree the man's language wasn't appropriate. I never once defended my sons actions. There usually is space to get by but on the odd occasion like today there wasn't. What if that was someone in wheelchair trying to get by the only way an got stuck. Would that be there fault also

It’s up to you to prevent an accident which could lead to costly repair work on his car.
A 4 year old shouldn’t be put in this position. Go with him to the park. Be with him.

Uh she was with him
Then some disgusting man called her kid a CUNT.
This was a grown man abusing a young child ffs. His anger wasn't even directed at the mother, it was at the child!
Inexcusable.

Yep. A park or our garden. In the woods. Etc.
At 4 with me supervising to make sure they didn’t ram a car or knock down a child.
And an adult in a wheelchair would have to find another way round. Not fair but if it’s not an actual footpath they’re blocking? 🤷‍♀️
And adults should be better able to judge a gap than a small child.

He was an arsehole.

Unless you’re a regular pedestrian you will never understand how fucking annoying and selfish some people’s parking skills are. I do drive but have been walking lots for the past few months on maternity leave and by Jove, some people have zero consideration for others. I have to walk on the road sometimes because I simply can’t get past some cars on my street with the pushchair.

The man had absolutely no right to call a four year old child a cunt, MN is astonishing at times... He needs to park more responsibly if he doesn’t want his car to be damaged.

Calling a young child a cunt is wrong, irrespective of the situation. Yanbu.

@OkPedro
soundsaboutright Yeah it’s the child’s fault that an adult called him a cunt 🙄

Absolutely NOT the child's fault, where in my post did I say that, please? It was the mother's fault for not being close enough to stop her son doing what he did. If she had, then the man would not have sworn. Who let's a 4 year old ride their bike in a car park? When they leave the safe area of the green, they get off and push it, right next to their mother and away from the vehicles. Irrespective of stopping them possibly damaging cars by trying to squeeze into a gap a 4 year old can't judge, it stops the chance of them being run over! Surely that's just common sense.

Sorry I can't keep with my son when he's on his bike. And the path the children cycle on is right beside the cars. I didn't once say he was riding in the car park? He turned to leave and misjudged yes he should of got off but what 4 year old does 100% things he's told. All use must have perfect children wrapped in bubble wrap. I'm done over it now. The man's a ball bag end off

It's not a big car park that he could get run over it's the residents that use it no a busy one. I don't have a big enough garden for him to use his bike so I take him to the green sit down and watch him cycle round and for anyone saying I should be following him round it I can see him from where I sit and the only exit is at the cars. The bike is there to cycle not go a snails pace walking beside mummy

YANBU - I would be furious if anyone spoke to my child like that.
He was being supervised, but just got away from you for a min as he was in his bike. No damage was caused to the car and to be honest, even if he had sightly scratched it ( yes I would pay to get it fixed ) it is no reason to use that word and swear at a child.
He's 4 for goodness sake... Have people lost all grip on decency

You can see him isn’t actively supervising. If you can see the gap is too small for him to get through then you stop him.
He shouldn’t have sworn.
But you aren’t in the right here.

Wow calling a 4 year old the c-word (or anyone else for that matter) is just not on!

One of my neighbours calls her toddler a c*nt as well as telling them to "shut the fuck up". Nice

The bloke shouldn’t have sworn at a child. But whenever I read about a small child injured or killed by a vehicle, I wonder what the parent was doing.
Your child shouldn’t be out of your reach in an unsafe area, and if you can’t keep up, you walk the bike with him until he’s in the park. He’s also a hazard to the elderly and unsteady if he’s riding around on pavements out of your control.

It would be a disgusting thing to say to anyone, let alone a 4 year old. The man sounds utterly vile and I hope your little boy is ok. I would be fuming if anyone said that to my Dd.

Don't think no one is understanding me it's a square green with a path that runs around it. So doubt he will knock an oap down. If you go to a bike park to use run up and with the child. I can't help were I live I have to make best what I have. Or just stick him on a tablet all day would be best sure. He wouldn't of got knocked down he literally came off the curb and got stuck between a fence and car. It was an out 2 inches to small a gap. He's been shouted at and warned not to be doing it again

Wowza. People are on here justifying calling a four year old a cunt. I’ve seen it all now.
However I’m afraid here on mumsnet, weirdly, children are expected to never ever accidentally inconvenience anyone and must be, I dunno, on reins or summat?