To be pissed off at breastfeeding?

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I keep on getting my nipples twisted I cannot stand it! But if DS doesn't get his own way, he just whines. I end the feed there and then but it doesn't seem to teach him. It's been going on for weeks.

AIBU to be bloody irritated sometimes? Sounds horrendous but I have small moments very occasionally where I want to throw him off! For the most part though it's fine.

Obviously this thread is semi lighthearted, I would never really throw him

My DS did this, yuck.

First stay calm. Grab the hands and pin them down. Any whining or fighting put him down and end the feed. Don't react, don't shout, don't make a big fuss and go on about it using lots of words. Toddlers love to get a reaction, don't give one!

If this means he weans himself naturally, so be it.

@MustardScreams I was just giving an opinion. I wasn't saying you should stop I was saying you can. The OP has done well breastfeeding this long as a lot of mums struggle with it for varying reasons to even do it a fraction of that time that she has.Everyone is different. Each to there own.

I bought a twiddle necklace at that point. Kept DD2 busy.

@mummymayhem18

You're missing the point.

The OP doesn't want to stop breastfeeding her baby. That isn't the issue, so advising her that you believe it's time to stop isn't helpful.

This is (was) a light-hearted thread about toddlers and nursing, not about the nutritional values of cow's milk - vs - breastmilk.

assume this groundbreaking idea has already occurred to the OP and she has decided on balance that this is a bit of a drastic solution to a temporary problem. Classic response of someone who just generally doesn't appreciate the many and varied benefits of breastfeeding a toddler and therefore assumes any mention of the occasional challenge proves the point that it's not worth it. I mean, why bother doing anything that isn't 100% pleasurable and 100% necessary for life all the time eh?

This with bells on!

🤦‍♀️😴.

I have a slightly raised mole on my cleavage. All 3 of mine found it at some point, youngest at 10months did last week and it is now his favourite thing to play with whilst feeding. Bloody hurts!

However, OP did say she was 'pissed off with breastfeeding' not, 'I love breastfeeding but ...' although she does say later on that for the most part its fine. Given the age of the baby, I think giving up is one reasonable suggestion that OP is perfectly at liberty to reject in favour of any practical advice that other posters may suggest.

Ooh, niplash! I remember it well, DS went through a phase of it around the same age. I grabbed his hands, said "no pinching" and if he carried on I put him on the floor and ignored for a minute. It passed within 3 weeks.

He also went through a bitey phase, and a scratchy phase, same technique.

My seven month old likes to nip my nips, it kills!

I used to pin the wandering hand in my armpit. During the day, nursing tops with 2 boob holes were great because he couldn't get at the one he wasn't nursing from. At night, hand in armpit. I fed until 21 months then stopped after a particularly painful bite. Stuffed a pillow into my dressing gown for bedtime, didn't have any issues.

Jeez, why all the anger?

If you posted complaining about any parenting decision (cosleeping, babywearing, babyled weaning vs purées etc) you’d get replies saying it’s ok to stop if you want to. I’m sure no offence was meant.

No need for the pitchforks and torches

(Above post not directed at the op)

can you get one of those big beaded necklaces? I don’t know if they have a branded name but lots online although I think mine came from waitrose of all places. My DD loved playing with hers but she was a lot younger. Hope you fine a solution! Xx

Another one to suggest a twiddle necklace.

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We had a bad biting stage when he was about 9 months. Had 2 bottom teeth. Blood ran down my stomach so I tapped him on the nose every time he bit. He stopped and then it was plain sailing. I think we stopped at 20 months. We could have gone longer but I was under a lot of pressure from DH and family to stop. Now I'm older I would have said to them to get fucked but I was from a non breastfeeding family and it was really hard on me to ignore the criticism. They were so enchanted by the first 8 months of bf and then they just turned!

I feel you pain. I breastfed until just before my sons third birthday. He's not 3.5 and still constantly has his hand on my boob!

Could try a blanket or toy for him to hold and play with?
Would he like playing with the silky tag on a muslin?
Been there.

OP I feel your pain, literally. My daughter (2) likes to dig her nails into my nipple then sort of push it down into the boob. It’s agonising. I just spent an hour on eBay looking for a similarly shaped squishy thingamibob to distract DD with. She won’t accept teething beads or toys and moving her hand away just results in a lengthy arm wrestle. I have no advice really but I hope for our sakes we manage to get past this stage!