Recent break up and need some advice

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Recently split with ex, was wondering if you have children with your ex how often do you text or call them ? Ex seems to expect me to text daily to tell him dc are okay, I'm not sure whether it's right to or not ?

No that's not right. Unless there's something wrong with them. If they're old enough though, they could have a daily phone call with him themselves.

Does he have them for a night or two?

My exH calls them once during the week if he can be bothered... I don’t want to talk to him but he always insists I do. I only text him to ask which day he’ll be seeing them at the weekend. No way would I text him daily, that’s just weird. As little contact as possible works best for me .

No not yet dd is under 2 he'll have her every Saturday and an evening in the week, not over night yet, We have co slept since birth so I think an over night stay might be too much for her yet, he says I'm being unfair on dd because I don't want to speak to him daily! Xx

My ex thinks that he should be able to contact our dd everyday too, my solicitor said it's an unreasonable request as it takes away your time. I'm sure you'd let him know if there was anything wrong. As for the nights away from you, if its something you're not comfortable with then I would disagree to it.

He expects a video call every day!! Xx

Sorry but how is a ten minute video call with his daughter such a bad thing? Unless there's a big backstory OP and he's an abusive arse, I'm pretty sure YABU as you'd be complaining if he didn't want to stay in contact.

How old is DD? I'd let him tbh. If DD is old enough to type, put Skype in her tablet and she can call him. If she's older consider a phone a bit sooner than you would have previously. Or if she's too young he'll soon get bored of how tedious it can be to talk to a child who doesn't really get how it works

Sorry, just seen she's under 2. Talking to a kid that age who doesn't understand the purpose of a phone call is insanely frustrating. Let him have his way- it won't last! DD is 7 and has only recently been able to carry out a conversation on Skype without resorting to silly noises and rolling around on the floor and she's always been eloquent and enjoyed chatting

How recent was the split?

Quite recent and raw xx

Sorry it's so raw still. I can imagine it must really hurt to have to speak every day. I guess from his POV he's going from daily contact and time spent to only a fraction of that, so I think it would be good to continue for a while as everything settles and contact schedules are arranged.

Once everyone has got used to things then I'd taper it off a bit.