To think you don't stand and have a group conversation outside someone's house at 11pm?

[Mammyloveswine]

I'm a teacher and it's manic at work lately, been writing reports and finalising data as well as preparing transition meetings etc. I also have a 3 year old and 1 year old (who is still in with us).

Anyway that's the back story...came up to bed around 10.30, knackered, just closed my eyes to hear a group of people chatting/shouting outside my house. Initially assumed they'd pass but 10-15 minutes pass and I can still hear the loud talking. I look out of the window to see the group are stood right outside my front driveway chatting away and don't look like they are moving anytime soon.

DH thinks I should just close the window but it's so warm tonight I refused.

After 25 minutes I went downstairs and asked them to please move away from my house as I could hear them chatting away.

Got back into bed and I can still hear them! Theyve just moved to outside next door!! Aargh!

I know people will say "oh you shouldn't live on a street if you don't want people walking past" and I totally get that but why would you stand right in front of someone's house whilst chatting?? Especially in summer on a warm evening?

I'm aware I'm tired and extra grumpy..But they were so put out when I asked them to move along it really pissed me up!!

How strange ! This is currently happening outside my window too. Although it's 12pm here so assuming we are not neighbours 😆
You are not being unreasonable it is annoying and rude !!

I don’t think YABU but will add the disclaimer I’m a grumpy fucker - you have my sympathies.

If you can’t move your bedroom to the back of the house maybe get a fan? Bonus the white noise will dampen any outside noise.

Yanbu

How irritating. No, YANBU.

This is pretty much constant outside my block of flats

Mum’s neighbours also do it but less often.

YANBU. I have been known to yell at people bring unsociably loud outside my window late at night. I am not a nice person if unexpectedly woken by drunken idiots.

Thanks for the replies! They've finally gone, I was hoping they would overhear me moaning on to DH!

Funnily enough we are looking to move and I just said to DH "we are having the master bedroom at the back next time!"

This is happening outside my window right now too, it's my neighbour, she makes excessively loud telephone conversations on the front garden every evening until about midnight. It's so loud you can hear every word, it echo's down the street. If you ever hear of a lady in north Yorkshire, battered to death by her own telephone- it was me!

Oh my god. I could've written this thread myself (I'm also a teacher!). The people outside mine also had music playing out of a car. They've left now (thankfully!) After beeping three times as they left off to bed!

If they were strangers I’d probably squirt them with the hose. Unfortunately it’s my neighbours who do this outside my house, so for the sake of neighbourly relations I can’t squirt them.

It’s very annoying. We had our bedroom window onto the front at the previous house so I could imagine. You’re right to ask them to move.

We live near a few pubs so often get this in summer too. I m also a teacher and absolutely shattered.
Yanbu. I actually swapped rooms with dd and gave her the bigger front room so i could have the back (quieter) one.
She sleeps very deeply so it doesn't bother her

Yup same here. Annoyingly there's a bench overlooking a central pond within a few hundred yards of our house. For some reason all the teenagers on the estate seem to congregate there in the small hours and have "fun". Loudly.

Actually, last Saturday morning at 6am we had to tell our teacher neighbours to shut up as them and their gang were heading off for some day trip and making a right old racket outside our bedroom window. As a teacher myself, I was not impressed! They should know better!

Your a teacher
I'm a teacher
I've very low tolerance at the moment so I think it's affecting u more thenit should

It's summer so neighbors will be out later

I got out of bed once at 3am and yelled out at my neighbour and her friend who were waiting for a lift arriving for her friend and being loud to ‘for the love of god shut up!’ To be fair they did shut up.

When I was young we lived in a terrace and my brother had the best bedroom at the back. Two of our neighbours were single women in their 60’s who loved to stand outside gossiping over the garden fence. One night my mum saw my brother was still awake at 10 (summer in Scotland so still light) and called out ‘get to bed son it’s late!’ He yelled back ‘aye i’ll Go once these two windbags stop yammering and keeping me awake!’ Two minutes later both back doors were heard shutting.

It boils my piss too. I'm very noise sensitive anyway but some people are so inconsiderate. And loud. It's not hard to be loud when it's late, but some seem to go the extra mile too. I've shouted out of windows before. Not in our current property though I've bawled out the guy in the flat opposite, he's obviously from a privileged background and also hasn't grown up, the noise he makes coming in drunk, plus the kebab he dropped everywhere this weekend just been, and his effing friends ringing OUR doorbell at all hours including 4am, is... My, that was a long sentence.

Every night, one of my neighbours...I'm not sure which...calls her cat Timmy in at around midnight. Its piercing enough to wake me up and Im a heavy sleeper. Drives me doolally.

This is an almost nightly occurance in our street. If it’s not one set of neighbours, it’s another. They’re nice people in the main, but totally obnoxious and inconsiderate when it comes to noise.

3 doors up from me is rented out to the staff from the local restaurant. Restaurant owner owns the house too. They all come home late and stand yacking outside. What boils my piss excessively is them smoking outside my house and dropping the cigarette butts. I have been known to shovel them up and deposit them on neighbours doorstep.

YANBU, it's extremely annoying and inconsiderate. I think often people don't realise how audible they are, they kind of assume the sound doesn't travel through walls and windows.

I've had this before late at night and shouted out the window "go away!" It worked. Sometimes ppl forget what time it is and how unreasonable they're being.

I unfortunately live on a corner block, halfway between two pubs (each a couple of kms away).
In the summer months groups of revellers are always stopping right outside, under my bedroom window, for a chat before parting ways. You know how long those farewells can go when you’re tipsy. I lie in bed, placing bets as to whether they’ll end up arguing/breaking up/snogging/punching each other. I also lie there wishing I had an excuse to tip a bucket of something yukky out my window, as in the days before indoor plumbing.

The other night, an unusual noise woke me. Very puzzling, but loud. Had a look, it was 4 teenagers from across the road having street-races with some wheelie walkers they’d found/stolen. At 3am, in the rain. They were actually quite apologetic, which is rare.

Another time I called the police, because I had concerns the lad under my window that night seemed close to consent issues with his drunk girlfriend. The pair marvelled that the police had so many details about their ‘conversation’. As if the house whose front wall they were sitting on, 1.5mt from bedroom windows, were just props in the play of their life. Not connected to actual other humans.

I used to live on a corner which seemed to be where lots of people said goodbye after meeting in the town for drinks and it’d be so noisy with people chatting it used to drive me crazy.

Oh no lots in the same situation! Bloody people...so inconsiderate!

Outraged, found a peach stone on my doorstep this morning. Fuck off somewhere else and have your midnight fruit picnics people. All sucked and disgusting too.