To sell an expensive painting abusive ex gave me?

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When we were still together my now ex bought me a beautiful painting from a gallery. I fell in love with the starry sky. It remained boxed in it's gallery wrappings whilst I was decorating. Since then though he became violent & I had to get a restraining order. I kept the picture for a year trying to decide if I could bear to look at it now we've separated but I've decided no. The thing is it's a very individual piece, I'm not sure anyone would buy it, though I could really do with the money right now. Aibu to sell it or should I leave it a bit longer & see if I change my mind?

@Genderwitched oh I didn’t realise you were in OP’s house and could see what she had!

Come on OP, we need to know if yours is the original or limited edition! Her originals are going for £35k!

I agree. Update please!

Get it appraised and see gow much it's worth.

Using the information from the appraisal, decide whether it's worth the hassle of selling it.

If it isn't, keep it.

Original, print, what's the difference. I have a van Gogh print in my bedroom. Snapped it up for a pound. It's my new retirement fund.

I’d trade it back in with the Gallery..it doesn’t matter really what you get for it as you didn’t buy it. It is lovely, I’m sure you’ll have no problem offloading it.

Sell it as it will always remind you of him and a bad part of your life. With the money buy a print of a lovely inspirational post x

I would sell it just for the fact I would probably think of them everytime I saw it! You could then buy one you really liked :)

I’d keep it. It’s beautiful and you chose it, not him. Don’t let him ruin it for you.

Having said that, I also have an abusive ex and recognise the need to start over. My house, haircut and wardrobe look completely different these days.

Why don't you swap it for the sunrise version? That would bequite poignant . But the night sky one is nicer.

I personally would sell as that picture will always have a connection for you. You won't mean to, but every time you look at it it will remind you of him.
I sold al my jewelry from ex as I couldn't bear to wear it even though it was beautiful.

Picture is stunning so I'm sure someone would buy it

Sell it, but don't use the money for anything practical unless you really need to. This painting will always make you unhappy. You can find another painting which is equally beautiful and which won't have the unpleasant associations.

I would keep it as a reminder that you escaped and survived.

I would change it into a positive

Perhaps burn a symbolic copy of the image ( not the actual object obvs!) on a fire at night as a "cleansing from your ex" ritual then sleep on your decision!?

Friend did something similar with gold jewellery from an abusive ex & decided to melt it down and came up with a new design in a dream!

Anyone else getting the giclee print ad now?!😊

If you aren't skint what about donating it or donating the money from its sale to a charity that helps victims of domestic violence?