To be having sleepless nights about first house

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My boyfriend and I have just purchased our first home, and we move in September. It's a new build. I am freaking out about it, mainly when I wake up during the night. I can't put my finger on what it is, my boyfriend is so much more carefree with money and doesn't care about spending an extra £300 on tiles, whereas I'm trying to save money wherever we possibly can. He also doesn't want to think practically about how we're going to use our space, but I want to try and plan it all out before we furniture shop.

Is it normal to hate your partner during this process!? Do I need to lighten up and just go with it like he does... and hope for the best? Increasingly stressed when I feel as if I should be excited

Me and my partner bought our first house 3 years ago. I was so excited, went out and bought loads of bits for the house etc but then as soon as we were given the date for picking up the keys my mood just changed all of a sudden and I was panicking about the money side of things like if we'd actually be able to afford the mortgage and bills etc, then started worrying about what would happen if we split up, what would happen with the house etc. I just felt like it was a huge mistake. As soon as we were given the keys though I got all excited again and can honestly say that moving into my own home is one of the best things I've ever done. You won't regret it at all

But to answer your OP, it's normal to feel stressed out about the whole thing, dont beat yourself up about it

Try and think of it like you complement each other.

My husband and I bought our first house and while he looks to be for the ‘creative vision’ as he call it I feel that the contributions he has made have actually changed what I had in mind for the better.

I am like you, worry about every penny where he is a bit more free. He has talked me into spending a bit more on some things that will last us longer and I’ve felt guilty spending on but I love. Perhaps start by setting some realistic budgets, creating some Pinterest boards and shopping around. You don’t have to have everything at once and that’s part of the fun growing your home together.

If you have a TK Maxx Homesense n’est you it can be great for good quality kitchen stuff, bathroom, throws, cushions etc

Congratulations and good luck

@CantThinkOfNameOops you have hit the nail on the head about how I'm feeling! Thanks for your kind words, good to know it's normal.

@poptypingchef thanks for the great advice, can definitely see myself getting addicted to Pinterest