BF lending my possessions to others

[Watda7014]

I don’t know if I am being unreasonable so I’d appreciate the views of you rational people.

I work in the same company as my boyfriend but in different offices. I have had a book on my desk at work that I’ve been meaning to take home for a week or so. I have been on annual leave today and have just logged on to my work emails to find an email from one of our colleagues saying that she has borrowed the book, as my BF said I wouldn’t mind.

I am a bit put out with this, as it wasn’t his to lend.

AIBU? I know it’s trivia but it has annoyed me that he is treating my possessions as his own.

That would really boil my piss.

I think it depends on what kind of relationship you two have, and whether this is a one-off, and how he reacts when you tell him you're upset.

If you've been together a long time, and he's usually thoughtful, and you don't actually care that much about the book, I wouldn't be super angry. At most I'd tell him to not do that again, and to check with me first.

But if you've only been together a few months and he seems unapologetic when you tell him it bothered you, I'd be angry.

That would annoy me too, it would annoy me he said yes but also why is she sniffing around your desk anyway?!

I have no idea why she was in my office! I just find it a bit much.

If I’m honest, if she’d asked me, I’d have let her borrow it. I wouldn’t have been 100% happy. It’s just the fact that my book has been spirited off without any input from me!

I have sent him a text and he hasn’t replied yet.