Preg with twins. AIBU to hate DH?

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NC'd as this is just a bit of a rant.

Currently having a miserable twin pregnancy. I was sat in the living room just now feeling a bit miserable when the door went. I am in NO fit (physical or mental) state to be around people. Despite it chucking it down today I have been having hot flushes and sweating my tits off. I've basically been waiting the entire day for my nausea to pass in order for me to have a shower and wash my greasy hair. I feel horrendous and look worse.

Dh answered the door and I closed the living room door to stop the dog getting out/avoid human interaction. 5 mins later Dh calls me out into the hallway to talk this handyman his dad had sent over. I'm sat in a stained white t-shirt (ate soup for dinner) that is completely see through to the point you can see my (currently) massive/dark nipples.

I try to make excuses but fucking dh is insistent I have a chat. I was dying on the inside standing there. Handyman was decent looking and the hallway was a bombsite which doesn't help. I'm normally obsessive with being presentable and it is so fucking typical of dh to not pick up on any of my signals. He thought he was doing me a favour by asking for my opinion. I'm just fuming that dh did this to me, he knows I'm not feeling great today.

I know it's my fault for not taking caring of myself but this has to be the worst day of my pregnancy (symptoms wise) so far.

AIBU?

Thanks for the nice messages. I'm very lucky.

the man being cute is nonsense as you're not there to look nice for the men

Of course not. But I still have some self-respect dammit.

Would it have been less embarrassing if he weren’t decent looking?

Yes. Shoot me for being superficial.

you need to perfect your evil eye Oh trust me I was shooting daggers but dh was utterly oblivious.

I had a friend who, years ago during her first pregnancy, hated her DH so much, if they had to drive anywhere, she'd sit in the back while he drove. She couldn't stand the sight of him, the smell of him. She couldn't even breathe the same air as him! They've survived!

This is all kinds of awesome, made me laugh so much!

LadyRannaldini I think we need to know if you were fully topless or if you had a bra on. Hilarious in any case, hope you brazened it out well!

I don't understand why you didn't stand your ground and tell DH that you' weren't 'decent' and could not meet anyone.

I took up the spare bed in the first half of my first pregnancy because it was too fucking annoying that DH had the audacity to actually breathe in his sleep! So inconsiderate of him

Pregnancy sucks. Mine wasn't twins but it was 12 months of feeling shit/in pain by the time I felt functionally human again after the births. I carried huge, to the point of regular arguments with random members of the public who apparently knew better than a stream of sonographers that there was clearly more than one baby and that I was 3 months out on my EDD I also don't recommend gaining 50% of your weight in 4 months. I couldn't even get off the sofa unassisted by the last week because of being so huge and broken. I was also beyond wearing such garments of torture such as maternity leggings, favouring thigh length leg warmers to avoid the agony of a waistband.

The bounds of reasonableness are suspended in late/ twin pregnancy.

My DH still does this shit to me now and the twins are 17 months.

I no longer give a crap what we look like.
If people start to criticise they get handed a baby or a duster. Sometimes both.

Ugh ignore all the posters with picking your post apart! Why this why that...blah blah blah. She’s pregnant, with twins and pissed off! Her dh behaved like a thoughtless idiot, this doesn’t need dissecting to “why couldn’t he speak to handyman alone” “why is it relevant that the handy man was decent looking”...ffs just sympathise! You’re as bad as the dh forcing an opinion out of her!

Op, YANBU. Nothing is unreasonable when you’re pregnant. When you’re pregnant with twins and someone annoys you you’re perfectly reasonable to eat them and their family.