AIBU to not send my ds to school?

[ClanMcLeod]

So, ds (12) has gone on a 3 day school trip to Spain. They have had a full on schedule and are due to arrive back at school at midnight. It is unlikely he will be home and asleep before 1am.

If he's knackered tomorrow, it's a high probability as he tends to need lots of sleep, would I be unreasonable to let him have the day off?

I've always sent mine in after a late school trip in secondary school, it's what we would have to do as an adult if we have a late night we still have to go to work. Don't baby him!

Where would this end?

Of course he should go to school.

You don't want to be raising a snowflake.

Re. the teachers having to go in - tbh that's irrelevant. Its their job, and they are adults. I say that as someone who has been on residential trips at secondary, and had to go in the next day after a late finish, too.

However, I would try to get ds into school, even if its an hour later than usual. He will enjoy seeing his friends to talk about the trip, and catch up with those friends who didn't go.

School will be expecting tired pre teens so should be geared up to having them in school.

If he doesn’t go in won’t the other kids think he’s a right drip? I’m not saying it’s right but that was the attitude at my school if someone missed school purely because they were back late from a trip.

Whenever ds went on an overseas trip with school he went in the next day. It was expected.The teachers said that tiredness was something the kids just had to deal with. On one occasion they arrived back around 2am and was told they didn't have to be back in school until 11am.

What would he do if he didn't go in? Will you be working? Is this about you wanting to see him or his welfare?
Personally, given I'd be going to work, I wouldn't dream of leaving him home to play computer games. It's all about resilience for me. Plus, that day back after a residential is full of excitement as they all de-brief on their achievements/fun. I'm sure he'll catch up on sleep over the weekend.

I would send him in. Tiredness is not really an excuse. I take it other kids will be tired too? We recently returned late from a holiday abroad late on the Sunday night after half term and didn't get into bed until 1.30am. I had work at 8am and my 7 year old went to school as normal. She just had an early night the next night (as did I).

Sometimes schools allow late starts for these occasions but in all honesty we've all been to school/work after a poor night's sleep and survived. The buzz of being in school will keep him going until the end of the day and then he can have an early night!

I would send him in but be prepared to have him come home moaning that half the kids didn't show up 😁 It's happened to us a few times but if they are told to come in, in they go. Early night on Friday.

What a stupid idea to arrange a trip where DC get home in the early hours and arrive back on a school day!!!! We never had this and clearly teachers were more sensible in my day. Trips arrived back on a Friday. It’s not rocket science to arrange this. Or tag it on to the start of a school holiday. It’s the timing of trips that makes them unattractive one world think and the reaction of schools towards children when it’s their stupid timings that have caused the problem.

I would send him in

It shows kids that a bit of tiredness does not make the world end

My son is 12 and yes he would send him in!

The school will make allowances for tired kids and also 12 is not that late as a one off.

Bubbles The timings of trips being weird often makes them cheaper, and thus affordable for more parents.

Have you sent him?

The chatter about it all the next day at school is half the fun, he shouldn’t miss out in that!

He can get a really early night tonight.

Mine would all have gone in.

You know your DS. If he can cope with a tired day I'd send him in. If he's likely to be overly emotional and get himself really run down keep him home.