To think this is the most unmumsnetty way to do babies?

[Thisaintphaedra]

Lovely niece has had a baby! She hosted a gender reveal (we all bought presents), we had a baby shower (huge room, all the decorations and lots of friends and family & more presents!). Within a day of having baby all the family had visited held baby and stayed over an hour (plus more presents) Plus today she let us all know she is naming him after my son, her cousin, and everyone is really happy about it.
AIBU to think this is the most unmumsnet thing you’ll read on having a baby?

Sounds a bit OTT but if your niece was happy with all that, all well and good.

Massively OTT!

With the exception of the naming, that's how many births in my area seem to go. MNers will be furious.

Is she american? I remember being aghast at the american trend for whole families being present for births

Each to their own, sounds like a big loving family who enjoy a party, this little boy is lucky to join!

@women We weren’t actually present for the birth, although that would have sent some mumsnetters over the edge for sure.

I always thought it was baby shower gifts or take gifts when visiting newborn. Not both plus gifts at the "gender reveal"

I've always been a great proponent of celebrations and whole heartedly enjoyed my baby shower with DC number 2 (they weren't a UK thing when pg with DC 1) but these gender reveal things are just a step too far, which is quite something coming from me as I will put up bunting at the first sniff of a chance of a cocktail sausage.

No very British

But, that's just me. If she's happy and the family are happy to participate, who am I to comment!

It sounds fucking awful and terribly but if she's happy then that's great.

@TwinklyMummaLuvsHerBubba89 Bless her she hasn’t actually asked for presents or made any demands, and this has been a first for mostly everyone attending. So we have been very polite and turned up to everything with a present I’m just hoping she loves her MIL and insists she has baby overnight and gushes over her MIL buying lots of duplicates. Then she has broken all the mumsnet rules... now we just need to get a non evil stepmum in there...

Tch. How am I supposed to froth when you say she's entirely reasonable and not an entitled brat!!!!?

What is this place coming too!

We'll, from the sound of it the child will be an adult before anyone needs to buy them any more presents!
Seriously though, it sounds like a lovely family.

@Thisaintphaedra
Sounds lovely and I’m sure Midwives we’re happy you weren’t all in the room😊

I know what you mean about unmumsnetty.

But I remember reading on MN, at the height of the froth about 'baby showers' when they were a relatively new thing over here, a Canadian poster explaining quite calmly but seriously that there was evidence to show that, actually, any evidence that a woman has a community of support around her tends to be evidence she's less at risk of untreated PND.

I found that really shifted my snobby preconceptions.

I don't think it matters how we welcome babies into the world, and I do see that it's not ok to put pressure on anyone to give gifts they can't afford, but aside from that, a lot of support for a mum-to-be or a new baby seems to me a very good thing.

Thank you lovely ladies but for the love of god won’t you please be scandalised and clutch some pearls? At least we had one flouncer

Ahem. Sorry OP.

You should be ashamed. The way you use emoticons just demonstrates your deep-seated resentment for this baby and, indeed, for the entire family structure. I bet you are one of those disgusting types who like their mothers-in-law, aren't you?

And you can't use paragraphs for shit. I can barely read this drivel.

Better?

I think you have won the total completely unmumsnetty for this year! And I will give you your clutching at pearls.
I clutched my pearls that tightly I've broken my necklace.
No someone please get down here and help me find them!!!!

In all honesty though op, it sounds lovely and I think it is wonderful that she has that much support.

*totally completely unmumsnetty award fir this year
**now someone please get down here and help me find them (the pearls)

Dear me it's showing that it's quarter to midnight 😳

People can do whatever they want

Oh FFS, OP. Here. Have a hug :)

Sounds like a lovely, happy, functional family. Congratulations. On managing that, as well as your newborn snuggles

Here's something REALLY make you clutch your pearls: at 5 weeks DGS attended a wedding for the entire day, was passed around dozens of relatives and friends, and slept through the band playing Talking Heads covers until late.

Sounds quite normal though not by mumsnet standards.

Cute to name the baby after your son, it's a sweet gesture.

We weren’t actually present for the birth, although that would have sent some mumsnetters over the edge for sure.

You mean she didn’t show the video at the get together? She must be saving it for the christening. 😁

Do you want me to pop along next time? MIL that gets on great with all DIL’s and was at birth with one of them recently. Also stepmum to 2 amazing people and we get on famously lol.