I read a really useful thing somewhere recently that essentially said worrying about something is unlikely to change the outcome. The example given was a person worrying themselves sick about going to a dental checkup was no more or less likely to need a filling than someone strolling breezily in to the surgery. It really resonated with me, and I ask myself, can I influence this thing, take some action? If not, I try to let it go a bit.
I totally get this, but my problem is anxiety over the things I can control rather than the things I can't. Last year I had a potentially life threatening illness that I needed a lot of treatment for, and whilst it was horrible, I was relatively unphased by it, precisely because I couldn't control it so I figured there was no point worrying. People kept saying how amazing and strong I am because I was so positive etc but it was because all I had to do was turn up to appointments and the treatments. I do have some anxiety about it, but largely I dealt with it quite well.
However, when it comes to anything I can control myself, any sort of life decision, and especially work related stuff, I am literally pathetic. I get so anxious, have no confidence in my own decisions or my ability to do things and often feel like a failure.
I probably need to get some professional help for it tbh, but if anyone has any tips they would be welcome!