AIBU regarding photos of uniform?

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I am a big SM user and post photos of my DD on there. She wears a cute little uniform for Nursery (polo shirt and jumper with any trousers/skirt – private day Nursery but uniform is compulsory from September before school starts to get them “used” to it) I do not post photos of her in her uniform on SM. This is not against the uniform I love it and DD loves it but I find the information to identifying to be posting on SM. I have lots of photos of her in her uniform on my phone and the professional photos taken in Nursery are up in my house (and DMs).

DM picked DD up from Nursery today and took her to a soft play for the afternoon. She could of changed DDs clothes had she wanted to as I always pack a spare Tshirt, trousers and jumper in her Nursery bag. She didn’t.

Then preceded to take lots of photos of DD playing, great I love pictures of my child having fun.

But she’s posted them on Facebook, full uniform including Nursery name and logo on show – I could just about forgive if it was overhead shots with the name and logo not visible.

I am a single parent with limited input from DDs dad (but he also agrees with this and never posts photos of her in uniform on SM), so I actually need my mum to occasionally pick DD up from Nursery when I have to do overtime or have a meeting as extra time in Nursery is expensive.

AIBU to be peed off with my mother? I’ve reported the photos to Facebook to be removed as DM said I’m a spoilsport and she just wants to show off her granddaughter.

For added context and before anyone has ago about free childcare, I paid for the Softplay, a drink for DM and a drink and snack for DD at a café nearby afterwards (I do not begrudge this as DD is my child and I expect to pay for her). I met DM and DD after work and took DD home from there, DM didn’t pay for anything not even petrol as she walked (I don’t drive so couldn’t offer lift, we walked part of the way home together though)

Have you explicitly told Mum that you don't want photos of dd with uniform on SM, or was it an unspoken agreement?

This is the world we live in sadly. I agree with both sides because as much as you want to protect your dd, your mother made a human error, is a proud grandmother and got told off like child and probably embarrassed if the pictures are suddenly removed from FB.

DM knows I do not want photos of her in uniform on SM, I have told her multiple times.

Hmmm well if you don’t want photos of her nursery uniform on social media then that’s your choice and your mum should respect that but did she know your feelings on it before she posted the photos? She probably just thinks it’s a bit of an over reaction rather than actually meaning any harm. I do get people not wanting the uniform visible but part of me also wonders what people are so worried about happening if friends on SM see it?? Like what bad thing could be the result of your mums Facebook friends knowing where your child goes to nursery? They can’t go and pick her up and abduct her can they? Sorry I’m not trying to be rude and I’m totally open to listening to the reasons but I just wonder what the big deal is unless you’re a famous person or you have complicated family reasons (I.e an estranged parent who could be a threat)? What are you worried will happen?

It's not about my mums friends knowing where she goes to Nursery, if they ask I am happy to tell them. It's whose seeing that photo that I don't know about, it's a bit too much information for my liking.

I am a DV survivor so it might just be my abused mind talking and closing off parts of my mind.