AIBU about my parents who are totally shit at ANY special occasions?
I have been mulling this over as I sent my dad a Father's Day card yesterday and it was the first time I didn't make a special effort to get him something to either put in the card or send him a present.
It was my birthday the other week, as per usual a card arrived the day AFTER my birthday and on the day, they didn't call me until 3pm to even say Happy Birthday. I always phone them on the day as soon as possible and really try and make an effort with presents. I consider myself a thoughtful person and like to make people feel special on birthdays, anniversarys etc. I spent a fortune on their Golden Wedding Anniversary.
They are not actually thoughtless, just totally wrapped up in their own world and are a bit disorganised. One year I got a card saying "Happy Birthday, we'll get you something when we get to the shops" - which of course never happened. One year they actually forgot my birthday.
I get really envious when I see families going out together and making a special effort - it's never been this way with mine. My husband is quite good at making an effort with presents but not so good at the whole "making it a special day" thing. DD basically hands me a card and a gift which has been bought by my DH.
I suppose I just want to rant - it's not even the gifts I'm bothered about, it's just the feeling that someone cares about you enough to get a bloody card to you on time and calls or even sends a text before 3pm FGS!!
My MIL and SIL both made an effort to call me and that was lovely. I am nearly 50 but it really upsets me. I think it just pushes my buttons. I would really love to say something and be really fucking bitchy to my parents but I'm so soft, I don't want to upset them! But I get really tearful about how thoughtless they are 