To be sad DH is back from weekend away?!?

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I honestly didn't think we had any issues before he went on a rare weekend away with mates, in fact I didn't really want him to go. It turned out I had a lovely time. Spent time with the dc (homework/baking/etc) but as I normally do all the childcare and housework/cooking that was fine or actually easier as no sorting stuff for him (this arrangement is fine as i only work 3 days a week vs his 5 days and dc are 11 and 13 so no trouble really). Did a bit of a diy project I am working on at the moment, watched a film when dc were in bed. Very stress free weekend. Then dh came home, made a bit of a mess but I have got tidy obsession told me to hurry so we could sit down and have a bottle of wine when dc were in bed. Nothing too annoying but I feel a bit disturbed and guilty for feeling like this.

No you're not being unreasonable at all, it sounds like you had a lovely time. I love my husband, but I absolutely love it when he goes away for an evening with work or socially. I get to do exactly what I want without having to think of him. I love him coming back too, but hanker for the next time he's away. It's totally different to being on your own full time.

YANBU.
My partner works abroad Monday to Friday most weeks (Brexit ) so I get quite a lot of time at home with just DD (9).
I'm sad when he goes but I love having our girl time and there being less bodies in the house during the busy work/school week.
The week runs smoother and the house is certainly tidier.

I get all the chores done while he is away and then we really enjoy our weekends as a family. It's perfect.

If he has been home for a month we start to drive each other insane. Don't get me wrong we completely adore each other but the old phrase "can't live with him, can't live without him" couldn't be more true sometimes.

I think alot of people enjoying it when there partner goes away for a night or 2, my partner doesn't go away, but she works nights, and I must admit, I love it, watch what I want on the telly and have a big bed to myself

YANBU. I love DW to bits, but if she's on a night shift I can mop the floors, watch stuff with exploding heads, eat Brain's faggots so forth.

Aaaah Brains faggots! One of my 'DH is away' foods!

I need time alone. DH has new job where he's working away a lot. I'm really enjoying it. Time to do what I want, leave the house in a state....and eat what I want when I want.

After a fractious weekend with him - I was v pleased to wave him off for a couple of days this morning. Peace, glorious peace.

YANBU. I love DH, and we enjoy our times together; weekends in, weekends away, and meals out, and having a laugh!

But I LOVE it when he isn't there for a couple of days, and I love my me-time too. I think it's weird and abnormal to be together all the time, and is not good to be together 24/7. I prefer some time to myself and for him to be away sometimes.

How can you miss someone - and look forward to seeing them again, when they are always there????

When he has been away for a few days (or working a lot of hours for a week,) I do miss him, and do enjoy spending time with him when he is off.

Sometimes though, when we are together for 7-10 days, 24/7, I do enjoy the first 4 or 5 days. But as much as I love him, I start to get slightly irritated by him as he has phases of non-stop talking, and following me around. I think he gets bored and looks to me to entertain him.

I can be alone, happily, for long periods of time, but he can't; he really struggles with it.

He has very few friends (just a couple of colleagues who he sees only at work,) and doesn't go out anywhere without me, more than 2 or 3 evenings a year..

Sooooo after a week or so of having him at home. I do look forward to having some 'me-time' back again.

I do wonder how women cope when their husbands retire, because me AND a number of women I know do love our husbands, but do find them a bit annoying, clingy, and irksome after a week or so of them being off.

Does he tell you to hurry up the housework so you can sit with him? Did I read that right?

My DP is going away for 6 weeks for work soon and I can't wait! Yes, I'll miss him, but it'll be bliss to have the place to myself. I'm an introvert so I'll be able to recharge my batteries.

Other positives:

• nobody walking mud over freshly-hoovered carpets
• bathmat won't stay on the floor to be muddied / bloodied by the cat's kills
• tv will be on only when I want to watch something, rather than all the time
• when tv is on it'll be on at a level I can hear, rather than one I'll be deafened by

He said hurry up and finish the housework after he has been away all weekend?

Am I reading that correctly?

No wonder you are happy to see the back of him🤔🙄

Yanbu. Dh was away this weekend too and I enjoyed watching all the stuff he hates on tv. I was really pleased to see him this morning though although I admit that's partly because he is much better at getting ds5 to go to sleep than I am.

Not at all. My husband loves it when I leave for work trips (he's an introvert, so particularly pleasant for him). I love it when he leaves for work trips too (extrovert, want friends round all the time with my ds). We both love each other, but good god we enjoy some space too. Living with someone else is stressful, and a break is often welcome.

I love it when DH goes away for a night or two every so often. Not all the time. One weekend every other month ish. No guilt here!

Yanbu
I love it when my DP goes away for a weekend or a night out. It’s bliss.