My wife and I recently underwent IVF for the first time; her eggs and me carrying the baby.
We fell pregnant but sadly miscarried within a week. Due to the meds, it took an extra week for me to bleed (which I am still doing now).
She struggled with the physical symptoms of IVF but is feeling fine now and tonight, over a few glasses of wine, told me she was feeling better now and that “those feelings” were coming back.
She also asked me how I was feeling (making it clear that she was referring to being intimate).
I’m still struggling with the early loss, and couldn’t help but say that I wasn’t really feeling it seeing as I was still going through a miscarriage.
Understandably it totally killed the mood, and I know I was being out of order by saying it so bluntly but aibu to expect my DP to be a bit more understanding and not necessarily be pushing for sex whilst we’re still going through a miscarriage? She’s now gone to sleep and not spoken to me, leaving me feeling like an arsehole. I know I was shit in the way I said it but surely it’s not all on me?