Post GCSEs parties

[Moggy72]

Now the exams are over, the parties are in full swing. DS16 has informed me that he’s got one every night this week. This will involve him coming home at 1am. He worked really hard for weeks and I want him to enjoy himself. However if I query anything about his plans he flips out at me and gets very rude and aggressive. He doesn’t do this to his father - because he wouldn’t tolerate it. Any advice on how to deal with an aggressive 6ft teen - who thinks he’s entitled to whatever he likes now his exams are over.

Well he is legally old enough to marry, have sex (therefore have children) and join the army, so I think he deserves a bit of freedom! My mum drove me crazy at this age always harassing me about where I was going, who I'd be with, when I'd be home, making me give phone numbers of friends incase she couldn't get hold of me, called me on every night out. I felt insulted and babyed and patronised and just embarrassed by her behaviour. Maybe try giving him some freedom? He deserves to relax after his GCSEs and he's practically an adult!

Just let him get on with it and be grateful for the odd text.

I will insist DD texts me her movements and she will once she's at this stage. I just know my DS will be like yours though, I just hope he gets invited to as many parties tbh.

It’s not really about these parties. Your son is aggressive. Has this always been the case?

Personally, I would tell him no problem, go to as many parties as you like, but don’t bother coming back because the door will be locked.

Entitled to do what he likes? In a way. But he can pay for it.

Mine has just finished GCSE exams. He has been told to let me know his plans. He has had a sleepover, wants to meet friends tomorrow during the day and the prom is Wednesday. With after party.
If he was rude and shitty then he wouldn’t be going anywhere.

This isn't about you not letting him go is it? It's about his manner towards you about going.

I assume he still wants food served, a bed, clothes, toiletries and a bathroom provided.
If so you deserve some common courtesy. He needs to let you know where he is and when he'll be home. He's not your flatmate and still your responsibility.

Aghh I am dreading this next year. My son wont even be 16till end of August and it's scary. I think he should still being respectful!

Plus, end of exams or not, 16 is far too young to be partying five or six nights a week until 1am.

Don't accept that sort of rudeness. Remind him that grown ups pay the bills and look after themselves. He doesn't do these things so he still needs to treat you with respect. A good way of proving his maturity to you is by being respectful and speaking to you like an adult.