Other friend being invited on holiday

[Littleteacup1]

Booked to go and stay with friend a in her dads flat over in Spain in August. Was just going to be us two as only one spare bed for us to share. We have friend b in common but the last couple of years friend b and I don’t get on we’re now at a point where I don’t want to be around her at all due to her nastiness towards me. Flights have all been booked for months and now I’ve been told that friend b may be coming as she’s been invited Friend a knows how I feel about her. She still may not come but if she’s does I will want to cAncel but can’t as everything has been paid for including tickets to event train and taxi costs

Would I be unreasonable to tell friend a I won’t go and will cancel if friend b is coming or shall I just suck it up

I would cancel right now, wouldn't wait for her to make up her mind. Your 'friend' A is a massive cow for doing this and would no longer be in my life for doing so.

Not at all unreasonable.

Cancel now. A is not your friend to agree to this.

Have you spoken to your friend about not wanting the other one to come? Where would she sleep? Could you tell friend a you aren’t coming and suck up losing some money? You can change names on plane tickets for a fee.

Is A trying to get you two to be better friends?

Even if she is, not fucking cool!!

No, don't suck it up. Cancel now. You don't need A's permission, she's not your boss. Cancel it and tell her after. 'Really don't appreciate you're inviting B when you know we don't get on. Bad form. So I'm bailing out on this holiday and cancelled. You have a great holiday with B. I'm out.'

You need to get some new friends because these bitches are not.

Where is she sleeping?

Are you sure this isn't some kind of contrivance aimed at "having the conversation?"

I would ask a few questions and if it turns out she is coming then don't go and cut them both off.

Does a know you don’t get on with b?

I will want to cAncel but can’t as everything has been paid for including tickets to event train and taxi costs

Littleteacup1 Sun 16-Jun-19 19:34:28
Would I be unreasonable to tell friend a I won’t go and will cancel if friend b is coming or shall I just suck it up

so which is it?

You need to talk to your friend about why she invited this other person before you do anything.

Tell your friend you will cancel if the other friend goes and you need a decision now so you know where you stand. You might not get money back but you still need to know in terms of taking annual leave buying holiday clothes etc. She needs to text other friend and say, sorry after thinking about there wont be enough space for you to come. If she doesn't want to do this then cancel.

I would be really upset about this and would definitely tell friend A i would be cancelling if friend B goes.

Don’t cancel,
Book an air bnb or hotel and do your own thing.