Fuck Father's Day

[CastleGin]

My husband works a lot. We've both had colds this week. I work part time, he is full time and Saturdays. We have 4DC. Youngest 1year old.

So this week I have worked 3 days and on the others looked after the kids and taken them to all extra curricular activities etc and a couple of play dates. Husband worked all week and Saturday.

Today the baby was up at 4. I did the wake up and when other DC woke up at 7:30 or so we gave DH his present and breakfast.

Got to about 10:30 am and I just feel so poorly. Keep needing to lie down I'm exhausted and feel rough. The thought of even having to change the babies nappy seems too exhausting and makes me want to cry.

DH isn't happy. Keeps making angry comments that I'm being lazy and he's doing all the work. I was literally falling asleep about midday and DH was purposefully asking me questions to keep me up.keeps saying how he isn't well either but has to push through it.

AIBU to think I can't help feeling this rough? That even though it's Father's Day I cant help it if I physically need to rest?

TBH I think fathers day ( and Mothers day ) are a just a card selling gimmick .
someone asked me this morning if I still miss my DH , I felt like punching him , OF Course I do , I miss both of my parents but no more or less today than any other day .

Can you and DCs DH make up for today next weekend when all the money grabbing restaurants are quieter .
It sounds like you both need a rest can someone look after the DCs for a hour or two so you can both have a kip ? If not send DH to bed for a hour you look after DCs then swap over .
Been ill and tired can make us all ratty so unless he is a PITA the rest of the time I would let it slide .

Thanks for your reply. I called our only emergency back up for help (family member) and they started having a go at me too. Saying that everyone gets colds, I should just dose up on meds and get on with it. I've been doing that for the last 3 days and after nights of very little sleep I've just reached breaking point. Like I can't do any more I need rest.

They later replied apologising for being mean. There's not much I can say, they look after our kids for free so just have to take it.

I really hate Father's Day. Next weekend DH is away so I won't get a lie in then either, it feels never ending.

Sorry to moan I'm sure there's people in much worse states than me today.

I feel for you!!!
Women are expected to soldier on no matter what.....I think THAT is unreasonable.
When you are unwell, you are allowed time off from your parenting duties and your husband should step in, fathers day or not!
Big hug!

Father’s Day was a home made card and his favourite meal or meal out. That’s it. Nothing else changed. He still went to the gym, the kids still had fights, I still sat on my own to listen to the Archers omnibus. Life doesn’t pause just because some one has decided it’s this or that day.

Go to bed OP.

I mean it gently, but don't waste any time. If the baby sleeps, and you can sleep through the night this week, you won't need a lie in.

It's very easy to go into a competition about who is suffering the most, and it makes both of you resentful. Go to bed and get some rest.