Hi mums netters,
I recently started seeing a new guy, let's call him "Andy" (not his real name) who seems very sweet if a bit keen. I asked him about his last relationship and was shocked by what he told me.
His last relationship was a couple of years ago with his married house mate. There were 3 of them living in the house, it was his childhood family home rented off his mum. The couple from were from Australia and Andy met the husband through work. They needed a new place to live and he needed new house mates so they moved in.
He said that he gave a compliment to the wife one day and that evening while hubby was out she "attacked" him in the kitchen they ended up having sex and carried on doing it when hubby was out for about 9 months.
He was self employed and would fake leaving for work in the mornings, wait until hubby had left and then go back into the house to be joined by the wife for some sex. He says they knew it was wrong but couldn't keep their hands off each other.
Eventually, they fell in love and wanted to be together. Also hubby found out about the affair by checking on her phone and saw some messages.
There was no big confrontation or anything, but hubby left and went back to Australia. Andy left the area and moved several miles away, got a new job and organised a flat for him and the wife to live.
She also went back to Australia to take care of some business but never came back to the UK. Never messaged or called him or anything.
He called her parents' house and her mum answered, and told him she'd taken off with someone else.
Turns out she was back with her hubby, they have since had a child together.
While he was telling me this, he was all "poor me" about it. Am I right to be concerned? Sleeping with your mate's wife once as a drunken mistake is fucking bad enough.
But doing it most week days for 9 months under the hubby's nose?!
He was talking about how he was ostracised by friends afterwards and lost respect from a lot of people. Poor him etc.
I couldn't sleep with a friend's hubby for 9 months. I couldn't do the deception part, I know I couldn't, I'd feel sick 24/7.
It's really put me off. AIBU to question whether I can trust this person or am I being too moralistic?