To buy my Dad a Father's Day card?

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He died six years ago. I had a little sob tonight when I saw the cards in the shop. I don't know why I bought him a card, it was just impulse I feel a bit silly now.

I don’t think it’s silly at all, even though he’s gone he’s still your dad it’s a difficult day for those who have lost fathers and you can do whatever you like ❤️

I think that’s nice. You could still write it and put down all your thoughts about him. .

Its not silly. You could write down some nice things in the card - feelings or memories.

Many people leave greetings and messages on facebook pages for those who are no longer physically here to read them, I don't see how this is any different.

Aw,not at all BU. Its my first fathers day without my dad and was surprised by how emotional I got when i seen the fathers day stuff in shops. Its so hard isnt it? Hugs x

Thanks everyone for the replies, I am welling up again as you are all being so nice! I haven't done anything with it yet, it is still in the hall. It is weird as my Dad was quite careful with money and I know he would think it was a dreadful waste. I can almost hear him saying 'don't waste your money on me'

Definitely not silly 😊 my dad will have been gone 3 years next week, and this would have been his first as a grandad so I've been tempted myself! Thinking of you!

I think it’s lovely. My first one without my dad it’s so bloody hard. Hugs to you all x

That sounds a lovely thing to do and I agree with the other posters about writing your thoughts/feelings/memories in it.

I struggled today buying my dad a card as although he is still with us he won't be for very much longer. He has very advanced dementia and is bed bound and hasn't recognised us for a long time and I couldn't find a card that didn't say something along the lines of relax, chill out, play golf, have a beer and all the other things he can't do. It hit me that it was probably the last time I would be buying my dad a Father's Day card which made me well up so thank you for posting and making me realise that it doesn't have to be

Sorry if this was a bit self pitying but here's some for you OP. Take care.

There’s something in my eye, OP...

I don’t think you’re silly at all. Not even a tiny bit.

I nearly did this as well! I think it’s fine either way.

Sorry for all of you in the same position, and thank you for all your messages. My dad actually died a few days before Father's Day so his anniversary always falls around this time - it makes it worse somehow. The card I bought is quite sentimental which is not the sort of card I would have bought when he was alive. I was rooted to the spot when I saw it and I couldn't pass by until it was in my trolley. I am sounding crazier by the minute I know!

You don't sound crazy at all, you love your dad and you miss him. And just because he's died doesn't mean he's any less your dad, or that you stop feeling that love in your heart.

Far from crazy. A lovely daughter and how proud your dad must have been of you x

You don’t sound crazy at all. You sound like someone who misses and thinks of their dad.

Why don’t you write down some of your best memories you had with him, or things that have happened since he passed? That could be a good way to fill the card.

Totally get this. Likewise the anniversary of my dad’s death is just before Father’s Day and I just want it to go away.

However, I will make sure my husband has a lovely day, getting spoiled by the kids and at some point I’ll have a few moments to myself.

I had my dads first bday in heaven last week, Father’s Day this week and first anniversary of his death in 3 weeks. Going to hate this time of year forever more.

for you passthebubbly

I have written the card, two sides of just stream of consciousness type thoughts. I have put it at the back of the draw, no one will see it , it is just something between me and dad. Thinking of everyone who is feeling similar. Will make sure my DH gets a good day tomorrow.

drawer, not draw. My head is all over the place!

I would open it, and stand it up. It doesn't belong in the back of a drawer.

I don't want anyone else to see the message I have written. It is deeply personal.

Not crazy at all. Glad you've written in it. I think I may copy you next year.

Be kind to yourself today OP, do something nice your dad would've liked - a walk to a favourite spot or something nice to eat that he liked. Just because he isn't here in person doesnt mean you can't appreciate him on Father's Day.

It's not often I get a lump at the back of throat but your post resonated with me-I think It's actually quite a lovely gesture of sorts.

I lost my father nearly ten years ago and I know it sounds stupid but when I miss him, I do some of his favourite meals and have a family meal. We will all chat about him and all his idiosyncrasies-the best being he truly believed he grew up with actual dinosaurs in his tiny village, as a child.
This um 'fact' came to light when he walked in from work, whilst I was watching Jurassic Park! Apparently he recognised them! Honestly in every other way he was quite rationale career chap but on this point-we all could not convince him otherwise!!!

Point of my story really is for you to enjoy your lovely memories of him and share them.
Sending you hugs.

Sam221 that made me smile! You clearly have some lovely happy memories of your Dad and his um, quirks, shall we say! Good luck to all who are getting through the day under similar circumstances!

Not silly at all op. I set up an email account for my mum after she past (Jan gone - she never had one while she was here) just so I could still 'talk' to her. It's not important that she'll never read any of them and I like the fact that, when I hit send, my messages go into the ether somewhere. I don't use it often but it's a massive comfort at times.