Hi,
Never posted on here but have followed some threads regarding miscarriage and want/need to somehow get my experience written down and hopefully have some advice on what I do now.
Over two weeks ago, at 6 weeks 4 days pregnant, I started to with brown discharge. No pain. But panicked and went to A&E where they examined and told me my cervix was closed and they couldn’t see any bleeding. We went home with a scan at the EPU booked for the Tuesday, 4 days later. About five minutes before we were due to leave for the scan, I had a gush of bright red blood. Not much but enough to convince me it was bad news. We arrived and had the scan and we were both shocked and delighted to see a strong heartbeat and have it confirmed there was no bleeding coming from the pregnancy and I was 7 weeks. Went home relieved but over the following days the bleeding increased with some small clumps and by Friday we were back in the EPU. I was re- examined and told cervix was closed but it was looking like a threatened miscarriage. We paid for a private scan the following day and once again were amazed that there was still a strong heartbeat. They also put the pregnancy at 7 weeks and 6 days and said growth was all promising. The sonographer said she could see an area outside the gestational sac which looked like bruising or recovering haematoma but assured us that everything looked fine. That evening, I had increased bleeding and period pain-type cramping. Bad enough that I needed some paracetamol. We had seen all the information about extra chorionic haematoma and saw it said there could be increased bleeding, clots and cramping so we assumed it was linked to that. The bleeding continued through the week however and by the Wednesday I passed some larger clots (size of 50p pieces) so we contacted the EPU. We saw a consultant who offered us a scan the following day. We went for it and devastatingly were told the news we had dreaded. That there was now no heartbeat and the baby was measuring 7 weeks 3 days (smaller than our scan the previous Saturday). It would seem the cramping and bleed after the private scan were a sign of losing the baby. It was explained to us that we had a range of options available and we decided that after two weeks of heavy bleeding and heartache we would go for surgical assistance (D&C) under general anaesthetic. Yesterday (Friday) we were in hospital for 7.30am the following day and had an agonising day’s wait to be told at 6.30pm that we wouldn’t be able to have the surgery as there were two emergency cases. We went home absolutely drained and depressed. I think the hospital took pity on us and rescheduled for this morning, despite not usually doing this type of surgery on a weekend. So this morning, at 9.20am I had the procedure. Staff were so kind and compassionate and I was surprised by how little pain there was. I’ve also got a lot less bleeding now than I’ve had for the last two weeks. I’m feeling a strange sense of calm and almost relief but at the same time shell shocked and devastated and like I don’t know how we will ever get back to ‘normal’. I realise this has been an outpouring of information and possible tmi. Just needed to get it down somewhere and hopefully hear some stories of positive futures for anyone else who has gone through the same 😢💔