To think that most abusive people have a better life than average

[Hobnobwithtea]

I was thinking about this last night and I can thing of several examples of people who have been abusive / bullies and yet they seem to live a good life :

1. My best friends parents were and still are horrible but they have plenty of friends, money etc
2. I’ve had bosses who have been vile (mainly to others but I have been on receiving end ) but still hold a high position / are successful in their career
3. I have two ex boyfriends who were emotionally and financially abusive but both are now with lovely women living a very comfortable life
4. I have lovely friends who have never hurt anyone and yet have had misfortune either with jobs, relationships, finances or all of these.

I’ve yet to see karma in existence and I struggle to make sense of why this is so I’m interested to know what other people think ?

the most abusive person I know is miserable. I think he actually loathes himself. He's racked with self -doubt but masks it with a veneer of confidence. The only two feelings he is capable of feeling are anger (and lots) and self-pity. He spends most of his spare time drinking. He has nothing, no friends, his family doesn't want to be wtih him, and he keeps losing jobs. Karma has really got to him.

My mother also is just horrendously jealous of everyone else. Bitter and twisted.

I don’t buy the explanation that bullies are/were abused as child. I think it’s quite the opposite- they’ve had their own way all their lives and they surround themselves with enablers as adults