To feel this way over ex

[sunshineandshowers87]

Back story so I don't drip feed , was with my ex for 7 years one day he just left , no explanation just didn't love me , he got with his now wife pretty quickly after our split, Iv always thought that was why but never had proof that maybe something was going on .

I was completely heart broken spent a few years single to work on my self and to learn to be happy again I know that sounds so cheesy but heart break sucks , I'm now married to the most amazing man, we have 3 children and I'm truly happy,

But this is where my aibu comes in it's been 8 years since the break up and I never bump into ex but lately I've seen him so many time around town and when I do my heart falls out of my chest like I the horrible feeling when it feels like your heart falls to your stomach

Aibu to have this reaction ? I haven't thought about this man for years and years

When you say your heart falls out of your chest - do you mean out of shock, surprise, awkwardness, hate or love.

7 years is a long relationship for him to walk away suddenly. That would pull the rug from anyone. 7 years you think you k ow someone. Of course it would make you question everything. It sounds as if you didn't get proper closure especially if you think he was seeing someone else.

When you have seen him around Town has he seen you, have the two of you spoken at all?

Sounds like you did everything the right way. Took your time being single and finding the right guy. Yes I think it is normal to feel horrible when you see an ex that hurt you because it stirs up all the feelings of rejection during the break up. Avoid him as much as you can. If you are able to see a therapist to talk it through.

To be honest I'm not sure , it's just that awful feeling when it feels like your heart hits the pit of your stomach and my heart starts racing , hate that i had any kind of reaction .

Nope not a word spoken from what Iv heard from old friends , he is in quiet a controlling relationship and he is banned from ever being near me , so each time he just put his head down and I just kind of freeze , I feel so silly

Yanbu

Sounds like a bit of anxiety, which is a natural reaction when something takes you by surprise, you're not sure how to react.

Yanbu, it's ok to grieve for what your lost, even if what you have now is better.

Yanbu

If youd bumped into him loads or worked with him every day or something and still felt like this after all this time then that would be different. But this is the first time you're having to get used to seeing him and it must be strange