You happy? Why?

[sayalittlerayer]

If you are how have you achieved this, if you're not what needs to happen for you to find happiness?

I'm happy now i'm in my 40's before that I had a fair amount of struggling. Things that helped me reach this were;

anti-anxiety meds
full filling job that I love
being out of debt
going out having having a lot of fun
plenty exercise
social media makes me feel connected (in addition to RL)
Freedom

Yes there are things that could make my life even happier; having enough money to own a home, living near the sea, being in a forever relationship but I'm in general happy, certainly happier than I was in my 20's and 30's.

I'm happy 😊 I have a husband I love, a tiny little house but I love it, I love my job and have a 6 minute commute, and I'm 4 months pregnant with our first baby- just feel a bit like we've hit the jackpot at the moment!

I think work is a massive factor for me. A couple of years ago I was in a different job which entailed not work life balance at all- the change to my current job has made an unbelievable difference.

I’m happy
Generally very content
Love my DC , DP , have a small ex local authority house which I love
Nothing fancy in our house , second hand furniture and Ikea
We are not materialistic at all

We enjoy family time , do daytrips together on days off
All read lots
Plenty of budget holidays

Close to other family members
See friends in separate hobbies

Everything is very simple
Cheap meals / second hand clothes but we are all so content with what we have

I’m also a bit like one of the PP though in that I can get cheered up be seeing lovely things as I drive by - like a gorgeous big green tree against a really blue sky and I’ll think oh that’s lovely what nice colours it’s so bright - I think these little “ micro “ happy thoughts help to trigger good vibes / feelings.

I think the secret is content with what you have , relatively simple life plus a bit of built in resilience - perhaps some people are more predisposed to look at the glass half full side of life ...

I’m incredibly stressed at the moment but I’m generally content. My marriage is good, we’re all healthy and we are very fortunate. I’d only really say I was really happy on days when I’m not at work and the sun is shining and I can do my own thing. That doesn’t mean I'm unhappy the rest of the time. Life is ticking along nicely.

I’m on sertraline for anxiety and life’s a lot better for it.

I’m happy.
We’re reasonably financially comfortable. I can buy what I want when I want (within reason, I’m thinking books, clothes, make up etc).
I work part time in a job I quite enjoy.
I’m a very peaceful person and don’t do drama and I’m not demanding, I’m very laidback.
My sons are adults and getting on with building their own lives.
I don’t do the lottery; I don’t need a big fancy house, fancy cars or designer stuff.
I’m quite healthy (and I’m thankful for that). I could be slimmer, firmer, smarter. But my DH loves me as I am.
And apologies if I come across as smug. It’s not meant that way. Just explaining what has contributed to make me happy - and what doesn’t matter.

I think I agree with an earlier poster who thinks we are pre-disposed to certain temperaments. I’m a happy person. Even when things are hard or sad, I will look for the good. I’m easily cheered. I can think of only one horrible thing that I could not get over. Im not sure if my children have inherited it.

I'm a single mother of 7 yr old twins who I had using a donor. I am still single having dated on and off since they were born. I work full time but in a vvv flexible job that allows me to work at home a lot. I love work. My kids are healthy.
I'm extremely happy as I get tremendous self esteem from my job and my kids are great fun and now old enough to be v engaging. I could have more friends - I am generally flapping around juggling too much to have time to go out loads to socialise but the friends I do have are enough at the moment. I feel v happy. I'd love to meet a guy to share life with but it's not a necessity at the moment nor to make me happy.

I agree with NaturalBLonde and others. Whether you feel happy or not isn't to do with your job or finances or relationship status or family, it is to do with whether you are the sort of person who looks on the bright side / seeks out the positives in any circumstance, or if you are the type of person that chooses to be miserable.
I'm happy - but then I'm a "glass half full" person.

@redspider1

Totally agree I also have a fb account but only for the various selling groups I'm in. I deleted all friend links and don't miss it.

I'm usually happy with stints of feeling down about particular situations but they are usually short lived. I often make the best of every situation and I'm optimistic. I've been happy in most situations. I agree too that happiness is not about material things. I've been poor, single and uncertain of the future but still happy.

I am content. I have healthy happy children, a lovely husband and my sisters and parents are my closest friends and supporters. A modest house that is all ours and enough income to cover our bills/savings and have some fun. I get to stay at home which makes me very happy. We have everything we need and some of what we like. We are very fortunate. I don't wish for more.

Yes. Love family. Love job. Love dog. Love house. Chinese on its way. DH let me choose all the dishes.

Killed thread.

Love my DP, DD, Job, cats, house, have enough money, good health.
I’m also truly loved by them and liked by a fair few others.
I’m genuinely a 8/10 on the happy scale.
Hate my fat and want my mum alive again though.

I'm happy! Lovely DH, great kids, fulfilling job. Also as others have said I'm a naturally content person.

I’m happy because I’ve managed to procure property and investments and am financially secure

I’m happy because everyone I know and love is currently well and untroubled, I’ve a husband who doesn’t get in the way of me being me, I’ve beautiful children who are all thriving, we are wealthy and I’ve everything I need and many things I want. Oh and my job pays well, is easy and causes me zero stress.

I am fairly happy most of the time. I love spending time with people in my life. I have things I love to do now and lots of plans and ideas for things I want to do in the future. We have enough money, a nice home, good food and enough of the things that make life comfortable, so I am quite content.

Some days I will dwell on unhappy events in my life or think about negative comments or bad things happening in the world, but I try to move towards the positive and away from the negative.

I’m happy.
Children steered successfully to adulthood and who we have good relationships with.
A loving husband who makes me laugh.
A nice house with no mortgage.
A job I find really interesting.
Good, kind friends.
The money and security to do as we wish, when we want.
Exciting things to look forward and plan for.

There’s few things that stop the sun rising.