To expect some notice?

[EnglishRose1320]

I know I probably am being unreasonable but need to vent none the less.
My neighbour sold her house a while ago, we chat ever time we see each other, she's dropped a few things round she thought might be useful whilst she's clearing out so am I being unreasonable to be annoyed that she didn't tell me she was moving today and the new people are moving in later.
As to not drip feed, my son has autism and is quite unwell at the moment and is home all day. She is an ex senco and has always seemed to understand so I feel surprised she didn't think this was something I needed to prepare him for.

It's absolutely not her fault that the timing is dreadful for our family but I would have arranged and managed this weekend completely differently if I had known.

Sorry I think it was just the final thing in a week of a lot of unexpected things going wrong and the idea that my son is going to scream/hit/hurt himself again is filling me with dread and frustrating me because it could have been minimised had I known.

It sounds awful for you are your DS. Yes you are BU but still it would have been nice of her to let you know, a move isn’t that hard that you cannt find 2min to send a quick text, especially as you asked previously what the date would be.

Sorry you are getting a bit of a hard time, OP.
As you say, technically, your neighbour didn't need to tell you, but given that she had been so forthcoming with other information, it seems a massive (albeit understandable) oversight on her part
I'm guessing ppl suggesting your son just being more resilient don't have experience of autism/asd/other special needs/anxiety.

Sorry you seem to be getting a roasting OP. I think it's quite clear, even from your initial post to be honest, that your frustration is due to exhaustion, the hellish week you've had and now your challenging weekend ahead. You may have posted it in the wrong place / in the wrong way but it's still pretty clear, ignore the snarky comments.

Though, for what it's worth, I can understand your frustrations with your neighbour. No, she wasn't obliged to tell you. Yes, she's busy with the move. But it takes 30 secs to send a text. It sounds like you are more friends than just neighbours it's so odd she didn't tell you something that she knew would be difficult for your family. An oversight on her part, but doesn't mean that you can't be cross as its going to have a big impact on you and your son.

Sending you lots of strength for the weekend ahead x

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat Your comment was patronising and uninformed. If OP thinks her son needed to prepare for the move, then she knows best.

YANBU to be disappointed that you didn’t get the chance to prepare him, particularly when NDN is usually v good at sharing information.

Yep, cos it's all about you.

Thank you for the more understanding comments. Friday was a very tough day but we got through it and I still managed to get away for a nights break.
We are still waiting for the new neighbours to move in, so some anxiety around that but much better than Friday itself.

I hope the new neighbour is nice, OP.

Ignore the dicks here, God knows what’s happening in their lives that they have to be nasty to someone posting for some advice.

Thanks Antigon- the new neighbours moved in today and they are lovely. The husband works with children with Autism, the minute he knew our son was autistic he let us know what time the van was due and what other things they had to move in like motorbikes etc.
My son has hidden in his room all day but that's okay, he'll come out when he is ready.