I'm at my nans deathbed- handhold please

[alfie22]

I'm sat with my poor nan. She is dying from cancer.

Her breathing is getting more shallow and she isn't eating/drinking/sleeping 😢

We don't know how long she has left but we doubt she will make it through the night.

Handhold needed please

Good on you for deciding to stay, alfie22

Any decision you made would have been absolutely OK, but to be there at the end is a privilege, a grace. You will, I hope, come to treasure this in time. Keep talking to her.

Holding your hand antipodeanly.

Thinking of you OP

Big hugs and flowers.

Xx

I don't want to be unkind, but shouldn't you get off your phone or whatever and concentrate on your grandmother's last moments instead of providing a running commentary?

Fuck me... was that really necessary?

So sorry you are going through this OP. You clearly need some support while you sit with your nan.

Thinking of you. So sorry you're going through this. If this thread gives you strength, ignore anyone with unwarranted and I requested judgement. ❤️

I requested = unrequested

So very sorry to read this op. I lost my dear nan only 4 days ago. She was like my mum, it's truly heartbreaking :(

I was 5 minutes too late. We received the call to say she had rapidly deteriorated. I was in bed as it was nearly 11pm.

I'm so glad you're with her. Please take massive comfort from the fact that you are sharing her end with her. It's a huge privilege to be with her and just keep talking, the hearing is meant to be the last thing to go.

I'm so sorry, hugs from me xx

Sending been there with my father, you're doing the right thing - hand hold and hug

I have been there with my Dad and it's truly horrible and my thoughts are with you all. One thing a nurse at the hospice did say to me though was that for some strange reason the dying person often seems to wait until family members have a breather or pop to the loo and then pass. It's as if they want privacy at that moment and if that happens you must not be angry with yourself. Maybe on some level we don't understand they don't want us to see them. Who knows but your lovely nan will always know the love you have for her. Be kind to yourself

Notanidiot you need to change your username. That was really unnecessary and seems to have stopped OP posting at what must have been the loneliest time.

OP, I hope you are OK

Thank you all for your handholds when I needed it the most.

My beautiful nan passed away in the early hours of this morning. I am so relieved that she is now at peace

I hope you feel comforted by having been there, alfie22

Many

Get some rest. She will have been so proud of you going through this with her.

Hugs for you Alfie, I'm so sorry, but she's at peace now. Ignore any unkind comments, if talking on here gave you comfort and strength, then you were doing the right thing. Xx

((Hugs)) xx

Oh sweetie.

A hug from me.

May she rest in peace

Seeing someone take the final step is the last great act of love. Best wishes Alfie

Aww, I'm sorry. I am sure your nan was comforted having you there and you will know you did the right thing.

RIP Nan

So sorry for your loss 💐

I'm really sorry for your loss.

You did a wonderful thing in that you were also able to assist and support someone in such a difficult situation.

Zoflorabore - I'm sorry for your loss too.

Awwwww I'm tearing up again.

She sleeps peacefully now
Xxxxx

So sorry for your loss op 💐💐

Sending love and peace to you and your family.
Try to rest now, OP.

So sorry for your loss RIP Nan

Im sorry too OP. You did so well, and so did she Xx

So sorry for your loss. I face the same very soon.

Be kind to yourself x