Today is my birthday. I'm spending the evening on my own with toothache.
I asked DP to take my DS to school to let me have a lie in, he fucked about till it was too late and I went myself. I got home and he stayed in bed so I went back to sleep.
Had a nice afternoon with my family, spoiled with gifts and lunch, DP didn't join us and said he was going into town, implying it was to buy my gift.
Got home and my gift was on the table - a bunch of snacks from the corner shop and some wine. I am not materialistic at all, I have told him before that I don't care if a gift costs 50p as long as I can see there was a nice thought behind it, but this just feels like he grabbed what he could from round the corner and dumped it on the coffee table.
After my family left he went back out, to the pub. I had no childcare for DS and have been feeling shit because of toothache so I told him I didn't feel like going out. He kept texting asking if I was ok and I was honest with him saying I felt his lack of effort in my gift and buggering off out and leaving me to sit at home alone on my birthday was shitty behaviour.
He didnt really engage with what I said, returned home half- cut with a chinese for himself and is now in bed, asleep so I'm still on my own.
I don't expect a big fuss on my birthday, and he isn't one for grand gestures but this was a special birthday and now I'm left spending the evening alone in pain and pissed off.
Am I just being ungrateful and grumpy or was I right to speak up?