To ask if you’d be ok with this

[BadBoom]

I have a pretty skewed view of what’s normal in a relationship or not due to last experiences so would like some thoughts on this please.

Been with my BF 4 months, had exclusive chat. He’s got a profile on Badoo and is still actively using it.

Now it’s not exclusively a dating site it’s kind of social media as well and on his profile he says he’s not single... but he’s using it to talk to other girls and I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable to feel a bit uncomfortable with it or if it’s ok? I don’t know what about it I really feel uncomfortable with, I don’t mind at all that he has female friends but it feels a bit like he’s keeping his options open with that particular app? Or am I being a bit overly suspicious over this?

Hmm I wouldn't be ok with it tbh. Did he show you the account, is he quite honest with it or did you find it? And what are the conversations like? I would think this early in the relationship usually you are both still in the honeymoon period and enjoying each other a lot so I'm unsure why he feels the need to message other girls, again depends on what the messages are, but you definitely don't seem to like this so I would mention how you feel and see what his response is!

No I wouldn’t be okay with it. Never used badoo personally but why would he wants to be sparking up conversations with women online when he has a girlfriend. It’s disrespectful and instead of ploughing his time into that he should be making you feel happy and secure given your past relationship problems. If he doesn’t want to come off it then I think you should kick him to the curb because it won’t get better

Hedging and bets come to mind

You aren’t happy with it, so that’s enough anyway, surely?

I've used Badoo and I very much thought it was a dating site!

I stayed on Plenty of Fish despite dating someone (who I had really wanted it to work with) for six months. But I genuinely used it to talk to people because I was very isolated and had no real network around me at the time.

Cut a long story short, I've made a few lasting friends through it and inadvertently met my OH on there, we now own a place together and I'm glad I stuck with it because we got to know each other as friends first. I'd long stopped looking for someone.

If your boyfriend doesn't have a good reason for networking with all these girls then I'd think he was hedging his bets. I frequently changed mine so I could speak to men AND women. I'm guessing your boyfriend probably doesn't do that

I wouldn't be okay with it