Aibu to ask this question

[FluffyTabbycat]

"hi (mil) how would you feel about having (our DD )(6months old) overnight not this Friday but next? "

Is this rude? Is there a better way to put it? My DH and I were Daring to dream of a night down the town .... DD has never slept out...mil is lovely and great with DD....but has never offered....thoughts? Xx

@federationrep even ^

Omg ... I can't believe you would impose yourself like this upon another family member ! You had a child , it's your job to raise her. Personally I would NEVER consider leaving my DD with anyone not even DH. We haven't been out anywhere since our first was born 19 years ago. My kids , my responsibility. 😉😉😉

Just thought I'd beat the competitive parent brigade to it.

Back in the real world. Just ask. If she ever goes on MN and sees the horrible bashing they get for wanting to spend even an hour with their GC alone - she's probably too bloody scared to ask !

Just ask! She’s probably never offered because she doesn’t want to assume or put pressure on. Worst case scenario she says no.

@smallereveryday
lol at that first part
You and @potteringlong are right...worst case scenario she says thanks but no thanks lol xxx

Just another suggestion, if finances allow, book yourself a night away and get mil to do the overnight at your house sometime. We have done this 3 times now, we dont go miles away, 15 miles into nearest big town, meal, drinks and to the hotel after. its great to get a break from the norm and the best bit is i dont have to pack and organise all the unbelievable amount of stuff required for an overnight at grannys plus DD sleeps much better in familiar surroundings :) she stays there fine now but this worked well between 6months to 12 months

Just get her asked I’m sure she would be made up to be the first choice

Just ask. Maybe she is a MNetter and wouldn't dare suggest it due to the regular threads here where hundreds of people pile on threads in support when people moan about their in-laws daring to want their precious kids overnight which is SO UNReASONAaBLE.........

DH and I had child free nights from when our eldest was about six months old. I think the fact that we are still happily married 30 years later is probably connected.

Why should your MiL be expected to have her sleep interrupted and have to get up in the middle of the night so you can go 'boozing' , unless she has offered to do this herself, of course.

What the fuck????
There's no need for this!!

Op go ahead and ask her, she's your dd grandma not a random person off the street. If she's not comfortable she can say no, or offer to babysit for a few hours at yours. Read her reactions and be prepared to back off if she doesn't seem filled with enthusiasm. Not unreasonable to ask at all though.

Oddly enough I'd consider asking in person to be putting her on the spot way more than a text message where she's got some time to consider her response more carefully :D Funny how people differ!

OP I really wouldn't ask until DD is sleeping through the night. If MIL wanted to offer to be up in the night then I suspect she would have. You could perhaps drop some hints into conversation, but I'd leave the asking until DD is sleeping through.