To feel terrified of the prospect of being on my own and having to survive?

[mommathatwearspink]

I just want to start by saying i am in a happy relationship and have no reason to think me and DP will break up in the foreseeable future. However so many friends / family seem to be separating from their partners / spouses and I can’t help but feel a little unnerved by it all. It just seems so easy to break up these days.

The thought of being left on my own with two children scares the hell out of me. How on earth would we cope? DP would be fine... he earns triple what I earn, has a strong supportive and very financially stable family around him which I don’t and would probably find it much easier to move on unlike me who is uptight and a bit of a control freak.

Maybe you shouldn't have had 2. As a single mum to one since early pregnancy I can tell you that's one reason of many for sticking with 1.

Maybe you shouldn't have had 2.

Bit late for that now though, she can’t put one back

Why are you worrying yourself about this?

Without judging , is there any reason you aren’t married ? As has been pointed out numerous times on MN , it leaves you vulnerable.

Do you suffer anxiety usually OP? I agree that future planning is a good move (savings, contingency plans, insurance etc) but to be so concerned about it does suggest you're an anxious person?
Would putting some measures in place help perhaps?

old we are due to be married next year.

crapple I can be quite anxious yes. The whole thing just fills me with dread. I feel as if maybe I should have a plan in place ‘just incase’

I think you need to get some help with your anxiety. It’s normal to have a healthy outlook on life and not be totally dependent
It’s not normal to feel like this

Can you have a chat with DP and put some measures in place? Maybe if you know your future is a bit more secure with savings/wills/support with DC etc, you'll feel a bit less anxious?
Anxiety is horrible, and the best defence (I've found) against it, is to take control of the things you can.
If you can sort the practical stuff, then yes, the emotional stuff would be crap, should the worst happen, but you'd have breathing room to deal with it?

Do you have a career of your own OP?

Yes bangin. I have a good job, although still low on the ladder in my career.