Ignoring messages

[purplecolourcat]

Aibu to think that if I don't reply quick enough to mil she gets straight on the phone to dp to tell him that I haven't replied, I've text today to see if she is coming this evening she's read it ( WhatsApp blue ticks ) but ignored it, aibu to think you can't go moaning and then not reply? Fwiw I didn't even read her message and she only gave it 10 minutes before she was on the phone to him telling him I haven't replied!!
Also fwiw she has tried to come between us a lot in the past xx

Don't fall into her trap, just carry on your day as though she will be with you this evening and if she fails to show up then that's just an added bonus.

Thankyou for your reply, I've just had about enough of it, she's done a lot of damage and whilst we are trying to work out our relationship she is just carrying on with the bullshit xx

I hate it when people position me not replying to a message yet as "ignoring". I'd feign ignorance on this one and message her to say your husband has told you that she thinks you sometimes ignores her and you're mortified as you just don't reply to anyone immediately unless urgent as you have a lot on. Sorry for any confusion, not personal etc. Addresses the issue but doesn't make you the bad guy, also reminds her that you and DH are a team and it's not nice to try to divide and conquer you.

Thankyou for your reply, that's a good idea actually, it's not that she's not replied Its more than she runs to dp if I don't reply within ten minutes when I haven't even read the message! Xx

I had 3dc with exh and his dm never had my mobile number....

No problem, I feel your pain! Taking blue ticks off my whatsapp has been liberating as it means I don't get the (worryingly frequent) follow ups from people saying "i saw you read my message at xx.xx but haven't replied is everything ok?"

Ironically I often don't reply right away because i want to have a few minutes to compose a considered response and properly answer people or check how they are etc. Not ignoring them - quite the opposite!