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AIBU to be frustrated at DH’s attitude to childcare?

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radioactiveimagination · 13/06/2019 12:36

I work from home PT, 2 DC 4 and 1. Parents usually have them one day a week, nursery rest of time. DH works FT and commutes. My parents are away on hols today so DH has booked AL to look after kids. So far I’ve done their breakfast, got them dressed then tried to work. Baby fell asleep so DH took DD to shops leaving DS in his cot, handing monitor to me as I sat at computer. As I predicted DS woke up after 30 mins (he never has a long nap in the morning) so I had to abandon work to deal with a nappy and give him some attention. Back from shops with DD, DH has now gone off to an appointment, which he had told me about, reasoning that I would be able to take my lunch break then so I could keep an eye on DC. So far today I’ve done barely any work and am under pressure to get lots done today. Oh and he’s out tonight so I’ll have to do the bath/bedtime despite probably also having work to finish off. Can’t see me going to bed before midnight. And we are going away so I’m also trying to get washing done and various other prep. Also I don’t work Fridays and DH is on AL tomorrow but he’s planning to spend it on his hobby, so I’ll have both kids solo tomorrow. No chance to catch up on work. Or, you know, have any kind of break really. AIBU to be angry? My parents are great and normally do everything for the DC when they are here so I can get my head into work. DH doesn’t see my POV at all. When I mentioned I would quite like a break at some point he said 'well you went to a yoga class yesterday' Hmm

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Horsemenoftheaclopalypse · 13/06/2019 12:40

he’s planning to spend it on his hobby

He’s taking the piss but probably hasn’t realised.

I’d try and fail to stay calm.
Then tell him you need to work tomorrow as you were interrupted a lot today so sadly hobby has to wait. 🤷‍♀️

I’d also ensure I worked from a cafe next time he decides to “help”

Nightmanagerfan · 13/06/2019 12:41

Go out to work in a cafe or similar and he will have to look after them?

radioactiveimagination · 13/06/2019 13:02

Cafe is a good call. Think my point may have sunk in, he's buying me wine and chocolate for tonight as we speak Smile

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