To ask if you find your partner boring / annoying?

[Strawberryletter24]

I’m curious how much annoyance and boredom is to be expected / is considered normal/tolerable for others I love my partner very much, and in many ways he’s absolutely perfect and unfaultable - kind, supportive, great in bed, hardworking, easygoing, 100% trustworthy and reliable, and we can discuss anything, yet if I’m honest I sometimes find him dull and conversation bland and predictable. We’ve lived together for a year and a half, and I often wish I could have more space for myself and find myself feeling annoyed by little things. How much boredom and annoyance is normal and how much is too much?! When should I start to worry that we’re not compatible enough???

Ahhh I feel the same way about my oh, adore him and he is brilliant, but he spends hours playing computer games, makes for a dull evening if I can't get into a book or there's naff all on TV, he's quite good though, if I ask him to turn it off he does. He also can't cook without setting the fire alarm off and then shouts and swears at the alarm like he couldn't have prevented it 🤦‍♀️

I think it's when you find yourself wanting to be away from him, you should think about how tolerable it is (sorry posted too soon)

Genuinely dont find him dull at all. I think everyone will annoy a partner sometimes but annoying regularly, no he's not. However he does go out a few times a week as I do need time to myself so I understand why if you arent getting any alone time that would become annoying if you are someone who needs it.

Been together 23 years - he is still not dull or annoying! He has different perspectives to me and is pretty much always interesting.

Together 10 years - he's so annoying! But I'd rather be annoyed by him than not have him around.

Not boring at all.

Occasionally annoying but we are quite different in how we approach things and I’m sure he finds me annoying too! And if we approached things the same way we’d likely not be together still (I’m irrational and flare up, he’s annoyingly calm and considered, which is irritating as he that can come across as condescending).

But overall I’m never bored with him and his annoying bits are always outweighed by his good bits.

Lived with fiancé for 3 years, have a baby.

Sometimes we bicker / argue, especially if sleep deprived. He's never boring to me. Sometimes we annoy each other, but that's inevitable when you live with someone imo. All relationships take work. We love each other very much and generally get on really well. We make each other laugh.

Only YOU can judge if your living situation / relationship is right for you. Listen to your gut instinct, that will tell you all you need to know.

Not boring 1 but. He has a dry sense of humour and a quick wit that has me laughing endlessly.
Does he annoy me... occasionally and I am sure the same could be said for me. I think I’d be quite hurt if he said he found me dull or boring

When I start finding someone irritating on the regular it's usually because I'm falling out of love with them.
Wow, that is so not the case for me, i find anyone I live with annoying, seriously annoying. I think I’m deeply irritable. No lack of love there, just an enormous need for space.
I only find my oh boring when he tells really long stories about work, with lots of unnecessary detail.

1 bit*

Haha yep.

I will often just be blunt and ask for time to myself.

We work together running a business too and sometimes I just don’t want to listen to him drone on about Star Wars or whatever

I hate to say it but yes, dh can be occasionally boring. But I'll take that any day over my exciting yet untrustworthy ex-fiance. He's a good, honest guy which helps.

I will take the piss...I say with a big grin and light tone "another long story?" He knows he's droning and gets to the point!

You’re bored of him after a year and a half?

Tbh OP that doesn’t sound good...

Been with my DH 6 years and I’m never bored of him. In fact I’m borderline obsessed

You only get one life, don’t waste in on someone who bores you!

After thirty years............. yes......generally we both realise when it is happening and do something out of routine to bring us back to our normal boring mundane, as opposed to bored mundane...

We both have the same value systems, similar goals and despite him being a lot quieter than me, we think the same things, I say them, he doesn't.

I would be lost without him.

Sometimes I find DH dull if he’s going on and on about a work thing. But that’s because he’s incredibly interested in the inner workings of the machines he designs. I only understand about 25% of the words he’s using, so can’t really follow along. For a bit I’ll nod and make the relevant noises but after a while he notices I’m bored and so stops. But that only really happens once in a while, on the while I find him interesting.

Anyone you live with can have little irritating habits. For example, it irritates me slightly how he can’t comprehend that he’s just loading the dishwasher the wrong way. I think silly little things is normal but if he’s annoying you and you find him boring all the time then maybe it’s time to reconsider

I have a best friend. We are both 64 and get on really well although we are very different. If we spend too much time together, we start to irritate each other - both aware - and take a break - it doesn't affect our friendship.

She has a husband/partner and I don't.

I know she gets frustrated at times, bored with some of his interests etc. but she accepts that this works both ways and that he gets irritated, frustrated, annoyed at times too.

Crucially, they share this with each other - as they also share the positives things.

She is happy to make the compromises because it works for them and she is happier with him than without him.

Whilst I am envious of their relationship and think I would like to be the same about someone, I also know I wouldn't/couldn't put up with that level of irritation hence I live alone.

Your call

Never bored of him, or v rarely, but he's really fucking annoying. That's OK though, I'm worse.